cheating husband

Lacey - posted on 06/10/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My husband had an affair whil I was pregnant with my first child, his fourth. they were seeing eachother the whole time I was sitting at home having a hard time with my pregnancy. Our daughter was 3 months old when he finally told me. Not only did he have the affair, they now have a child together. how do cope with this? I am soooo lost

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Lacey - posted on 06/10/2011

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I forgot to mention, I have three step daughters that we have sole custody of, and that I have been raising as my own. I am the only mother that they have. If I take my bio daughter and leave, I lose all rights to them. I cant walk out on them too. that is the hardest part of this whole mess

September - posted on 06/10/2011

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Personally I would get a divorce. I would never be able to forgive my husband if he cheated on me.

JuLeah - posted on 06/10/2011

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Well, he has shown you who he is. He won't change. You can't make him change. So, you can choose what you now want to do. Live with him, knowing he will cheat on you again (likely has) or kick his butt to the crub and find someone who understands respect.

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Samantha - posted on 09/02/2011

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I have been through what you are going through and my advice would be to leave him he will never change trust me if he cheated on you he has probably cheated on ones before you if you know any of them you should open up to them and trust me the story will be the same as what you are going through i promise

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 06/10/2011

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Also, talk to your husband a possible open marriage. He's cheated, so if he doesn't mind screwing around, why not leave it open, agree to be good friends and housemates and well I know it would be awkward but...... find someone else for you too sometimes?

Jaime - posted on 06/10/2011

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Lacey, I'm not sure where you live but when my mom married my step-father when I was 2, he took custody of us through the marriage and when they were divorced when I was 14 he was still legally responsible for me, even though he had not adopted me (or my older sister). So if you leave your husband, I can't see how you would lose rights to your step-daughters given that you've been their mother and have been caring for them as such. I would seek some legal counsel and find out exactly where you stand before making any decisions.

Lacey - posted on 06/10/2011

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thank you september. I am just looking for advice on how to deal with this disaster. if you care to read my whole story I have a blog called behind these eyes. lacey-riffey.blogspot.com. Im just lost and looking for someone who is going through or has been through the same thing

September - posted on 06/10/2011

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Lacey I'm so sorry. In that case it may be worth working it out with your husband if you can find it in your heart to forgive him. I wish you all the best ♥

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