cheating spouse

Margaret - posted on 02/14/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )




My spouse cheated on me to the extent of having a 8 year old girl. He left home since Thursday to be with them bc it's the girl's birthday today. Have been down but my 2 boys really tried to make me happy as today is Val day. I tried to forgive him but we keep fighting anytime he wants to go visit the girl. He claims he loves me but how can I cope knowing that he is in the arms of another woman? Pls advice me on how to move on .


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Sarah - posted on 02/14/2015




He left home on Thursday because his daughter's birthday is today? Where was he on Valentine's Day eight years ago? In the delivery room with is mistress? Why do you boys even know about this and why on earth have you put up with this for 8 years? I agree, pack his crap, change the locks and file for divorce.

Michelle - posted on 02/14/2015




I'm with Jodi, you don't have to put up with him treating you this way.
Just because he had a child with someone else doesn't mean he has to keep having a relationship with the other woman. He is allowed to see his child without having to sleep with her Mother.
You have allowed him to treat you this way though and carry on with the affair. Of course he will tell you that he loves you, he doesn't want you to leave him. He probably says the same things to the other woman. He probably tells her that he isn't in love with you anymore and he will be getting a divorce because that's what she wants to hear.
I suggest getting yourself a good divorce lawyer and kicking him out.

Jodi - posted on 02/14/2015




Why are you accepting having a husband who cheats on you? You DO realise, don't you, that you are both modelling to your two boys that cheating is acceptable behaviour? It's time to make a stand. If he loved you he wouldn't do this to you. He has absolutely no right to do this. He married you. He made promises to you. He is breaking those promises over and over again.

I'd be changing the locks and telling him he can stay there and serving him with divorce papers, as well as filing for custody and child support. Immediately (actually, I would have done it years ago, but you have to starts somewhere).

Go and talk to a good lawyer.

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