Chemical Imbalances in children or in other words mental illness

Cydney - posted on 07/21/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Let me start off by saying that I never thought I would be in the position that I am currently having. My oldest was having little issue during my pregnancy with his little brother and I was taking it as he has been the only child for 8 an a half years and he is acting out. He sees a therapist once a week to talk about his feelings and to learn coping skills that he doesnt have. In other words everyone has a coat of armor around that so that they can cope with stress or pain or whatever is bothering them, My son has no such thing, He takes everything personal and feels the need to please everyone even if it makes him unhappy. He is such a loveable thoughtful caring little person, it breaks my heart that I cant protect him 24 hours in the day, Well back in May he had lost control and wanted to kill himself. A 9 year wanted to end his life. I was in shock but i took everything in stride and did what I had too he was in a pedi psych ward for a week and thats when they discovered that he had a mood disorder with depression and severe adhd. They started him on medication to help him focus and it has been working but he gets all the side effects. I thought everything was looking up but 20 days later to the day that he got first admitted he told his school nurse that he wanted to die. Again he was admitted but during the course of this my job wasnt very supportive at first they understood then they wanted me to resign and I tried everything in my power to not become unemployed but giving the choice between my job and my son. My son won out, Plus he could go back to school because that was one of the stressors that pushed him off the deep end. The reason I am writing this is to first get it off my chest and to see if any other mom has dealt with the same thing. And on top of that I know that i am suffering from post partum but I dont have time to swallow on me. I have to take care of my kids. Well this is it.

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Lyndsay - posted on 07/22/2010

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Hmm, quite the pickle you're in. First thing, you need to address your own issues because your son needs you at your greatest strength to help him with his struggles. You can't just put your own depression on the backburner, hoping it will just go away if you ignore it.. because it won't.

Second, I am very strongly against giving psychotropic medications to children. Most mood disorders are treated with anti-depressants, which actually increase suicide risk in children under the age of 18. In fact, they aren't even tested on anyone under 18.. so you really don't know what the long term effects will be. (Ever notice the commercials always say "not recommended for children under 18"? Thats why.) I understand that sometimes children need these medications, but I think that there are always other options available to at least consider.

There are a lot of creative therapy programs out there (art therapy, music therapy, dance therapy, just to name a few), chances are you could find something he would enjoy. Try searching on google, you will find the associations websites and you can try to locate something nearby.

One product I would suggest is called Calm-Child, which is actually just an organic multi-vitamin that helps with ADHD symptoms. Check it out... http://www.evitamins.com/product.asp?pid...

Oh, and also Rescue Remedy, which my pharmacology teacher swears by and uses with her own child.. its also for ADHD and anxiety disorders, heres the site.. http://www.rescueremedy.com/

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Chris - posted on 11/20/2012

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Cydney,



I know this post was from a long time ago, but are you still having problems with your boy? I have a ten year old daughter and she too is experiencing problems similar to what you describe minus the depression. I am a father and want to help my child. I have additional questions for you when you have a chance.



Thank you,

Chris

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Your post makes me want to cry. First, please take care of yourself and your postpartum. You can't give 100% to your kids if you aren't 100% well. Do you have relatives nearby that can help out with the baby while you take care of yourself and oldest son? What about a nearby church? Please find help.

Dawn - posted on 07/22/2010

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Cydney, I am praying for you and your son and your family....this is a hard thing to go through I am sure. And you should be proud that you are putting your sons well being ahead of all else. Please seek some help for yourself as well...there must be support groups in your area, or find a caring church you can join. And turn to God (whoever or whatever that is to you), IMO you are being given this for a reason (not in a, lightning-is-going-to-strike-you-for-lying sort of way!!) and we are never given more than we can handle! As another poster wrote, keep on those doctors...although you may be battling all sorts of side effects, there should be some middle ground there somewhere. Also look into schools that can deal with your sons' problems....his schooling shouldn't be affected and it also gives you the break that you need to focus on yourself and your younger child. Remember, you are an amazing, strong, loving mother........keep your faith, ask for help and stay positive. I will continue to pray. God bless you!!

Cydney - posted on 07/22/2010

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Thank you both. Yes since may he has tried 3 medications so far with the first showing more improvement. But they gave him one med that he started hearing voices and another where it dropped his white blood cell count mind he was never suppose to be given that one in the first place because he is under 18. Yes they ruled out bipolar because he was in a manic state were he was super over the moon happy one minute then just doom and gloom the next. I am taking it day by day and making sure that he is okay that is all I can do right now. I have my boyfriend and my mom and like 2 or 3 close people that i can talk too but at the same time they dont understand where i am coming from or my concerns. My son has to deal with this for the rest of his life. I feel horrible because I cant take away that mental pain and make it my own. No mother wants their child hurting.

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Hi Cydney,



I am a teacher of Special Needs kids so while I have never been through this personally I have heard it before. Keep hasseling your Doctors until they change his medication. There is supposed to be a process where they introduce meds slowly and try to alter the dose until they acheive a balance between efficiency and side effects. There are also a range of meds he could be taking so if one isn't worknig then he needs to try another one.

Melanie - posted on 07/22/2010

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Cydney,
my thoughts are with you sweet! I have a almost 10 year old who is having panic attacks due to his father and step mother! I dont know if i can help you or not, but 22 months ago i was diagnosed with bypolar disorder. With out knowing it i had suffered with this since i was 14. Part of the disorder is adhd, split personality disorder and,manic depression. Bypolar can take on several forms. I have tried serveral medications untill they found one that works for me! Your son would be the same!
When your son tells you or the nurse he want to die, dose he remember the conversation? Only asking because part of my bypolar (not medicated) Id say i was going to kill myself or have anger out burst but have no memory of them! But the people i tell it to DO! Children as young as 4 can can show signs of bypolar. Im saying this is what he has but it might help, even if its to rule out thats its not what he has!
Hugs to you and your family and i hope i have help in some way!
Good luck! Will be waiting to see how things are going!

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