Child abuse

Dixie Lee - posted on 02/16/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Yesterday my 54 year old daughter told me that her step father had sexually abused her at the ages of 10 and 11. He has been deceased for 28 years and I am remarried but my whole world was just destroyed. This man was my soul-mate, the man I loved more than life itself. How do I deal with this betrayal now? My daughter is in therapy and they advised her to tell me. I could have gone to my grave happily but....I don't know how to deal with this. I am crying ......a lot. My memories are 22 years of happiness...well they were but now..........I need help.

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Michelle - posted on 02/17/2016

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You need to get yourself into therapy as well. That's the best way to work through all the emotions you are going through.

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Gardensparrow - posted on 02/17/2016

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I'm so sorry this is happening to your family. I know it's devastating to hear this kind of news about someone you loved and trusted. So, the way you're feeling is completely understandable. But, since you don't want to be stuck in this place, I'd have to second the suggestion to consider some counseling for yourself. I really think a therapist could help you work through all that you're feeling right now. Another thought might be to look into the possibility of a support group in your area. Just hearing how others have dealt with this may be really helpful. And please know I'm praying for you and your daughter!

Jayne - posted on 02/17/2016

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I know this must be very painful for you but the real victim is your daughter and that is where the focus should be.Your daughter lived the experience not you.Buck up and find a good therapist. It seems like it is far better to go to the grave knowing that you helped her.

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