Elaine - posted on 07/01/2016 ( 9 moms have responded )
So in 2011 I went to missouri and came back with a surprise. (Prego) at the time my ex liked me but soon as I told him I was prego he said it wasn't his. So I kept the baby and now she is 4. Last year we finally got the results back and 9f course hes the father... and he still denies for saying that he didn't abandon her. Oh before we got the results he asked me if he could her uncle cuz he wasn't ready for this... and I wasn't either lol but still did it. Now that he knows she is her daughter he threatens me that he will take her away from this he'll hole. I do live in the ghetto of moreno valley but she has everything she needs and family that loves her. We went out to missouri for a visit and and he only spent maybe less than half the month with her... We did have an affair but that was a mistake. When we came back we worked stuff out and said I'll be friend and so when I had hard times with my fiance i would talk to him and now he missed a payment of child support and is blaming me because I asked 3 days before the first if he was going to pay and he said yes tomorrow when I get paid but he lied and didn't so I called the child support to see what's going on with the money if it's still being processed or if he didn't pay and he didn't. He told me I could of just taken his word but I didn't and im making stuff worse for him. I understand why he's mad because all of his 900 tax money went to the child support and now his license might get suspended if he doesn't hurry up. My thing is I want to go get full custody because I'm so tired of the fear of him saying im going to take her away. I know I have a good place for her but I think what's going to happen is he's going to want visitation and I don't feel like transportation to missour once a year. Is there a way I can get full custody and then do visitation when she's old enough to be on a plane by her self? Idk what to do but I'm tired of these threats and I want it to stop. I want all the advice I can get. I already spent 3 hours doing research on this but nothing. I really wish he could just mature and we can make our own plan without court and figure out visitation because I already the judge 8s going to do what's the best it erect for the child and she barely knows him and he's been out of her life for 3 an a half years. He has sent her 2 letters and the first one was all words explaining why he left and that he wants more kids. Like he doesn't know what to do with kids. His mom tells me he has a temper and he can ba rely take out the trash and is a spoiled young man who wants his way but I don't want to take her word cuz she's tried saying she'll help him get my daughter.
What would be the best thing to do? I'm so ready to just block him completely but I don't want that to look bad on my case. Plus I do have every text an email because we never talk on the phone. Except that one time he called her because I told him to. Help please!!! :(