child custody

Sharena. - posted on 07/11/2015 ( 12 moms have responded )

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My son father is trying to get full custody of my son he is 2 years old. And wonts me to pay him child support.he has my son during the week and i get him on weekend until we. Go to court thursday and judge decided who gets what i dont have a lawyer cant afford one he has one. we are not together because he is very abusive and controlling. I cant deal with the stress .i drop my baby off with him on the Thursday before fathers day and i go to pick him up that monday and i get surfed with a temporary retraining orders.i need him

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Jodi - posted on 07/11/2015

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Sorry, your second post didn't show up before I typed my other post.

If you don't have custody orders, then he can pretty much do as he pleases. He doesn't HAVE to let you even have the child at all. You need to file for visitation at the very least. Or is this court hearing the custody and visitation hearing? I'm a bit confused as to whether it is that or a restraining order hearing - I'd assumed it was a restraining order hearing.

Sharena. - posted on 07/11/2015

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I said no i dont have any custody orders .i filed for child support then he go and get a lawyer and filed a retraining orders on me.

Jodi - posted on 07/11/2015

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You "think" you have custody orders? How can you not know for certain whether you have or not? I suggest you figure that one out first.

Sharena. - posted on 07/11/2015

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No i dont have custody orders or anything i dont know i filed for child support in april that's it iam so lost i dont know whay to do but pray

Jodi - posted on 07/11/2015

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OK, I'm just going to ask - do you have custody orders? A restraining order is one thing, this does not give him full custody and doesn't give him the right to keep your child from you. Custody orders are another thing - even with a restraining order, he must still follow custody orders. If you don't have custody and visitation orders, then get some.

I am also confused about the conflict of interest situation.

Michelle - posted on 07/11/2015

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So is his lawyer from legal aid as well? That would be the only reason there would be a conflict of interest.

Sharena. - posted on 07/11/2015

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Me and this man was together for four years and he controlled my every move i cant ser my family loss all my friends .two years into the relationship he moved in four of his kids into the house i took care of them like they where my own all all called me mom i got medical insurance on all them. Plus my own son i have took my child and his to the doctors he has never been there one appt.never to my appts when i was pregnant its all a game to him i work and have a place in a very nice area.

Sharena. - posted on 07/11/2015

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The hearing is Thursday and the order is to protect him where i would bring my son back to him .i live in longview tx and yes i got copys of the police report and witness and yes this man is playing the system he dont care about having my son he wonts me back and is trying everything to do that i dont wont him i just wont my son he calls everyday trying to get me back

Sarah - posted on 07/11/2015

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I don't understand how needing legal aid creates a conflict of interest. On what ground was the restraining order filed and when is the hearing? DO NOT MISS THAT HEARING! if you do miss the hearing, your husband will be granted the restraining order and that will not help your custody case. This Thursday, if there is a temporary order in place, it is likely he will get custody. Where do you live? Do you have any documentation of past abuse? Police reports, affidavits from family, witnesses that can testify? Sounds like he is playing the system. There must be some way to get representation?

Jodi - posted on 07/11/2015

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Unfortunately, you are probably going to need a lawyer on this one. I understand you can't afford one, but not having one is likely to mean you won't get the custody you want, and he has a greater likelihood of winning.

With regard to child support, if your ex has him most of the time (which seems to be the case), it is your responsibility to pay toward supporting him. You will also most likely get served with child support orders.

All I can suggest at this point is to check out if you qualify for some kind of legal aid where you live.

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