Maria - posted on 08/03/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )
Hi I'm a single mom. New on here. I am not through with court stuff. I have been separated for 2 years now. It's been a full two years of battling out custody and placements with the children and still no final settlement. Tired of this thing dragging on and on. We have 3 children. Ages 4, 5 and 7. The situation in a nut shell is my ex has a history of domestic violence charge and bail jumping (breaking a restrain order) coming into my house when I was not there. Since this time he has succeeded in getting my entire family, church, and best friends to side with him to the extent of even some of them to coming to court to paint me as a bad mother in court. He did a diversionary program and completed it. It was for an entire year. Apparently in Wisconsin you can do a diversionary program if your charged a crime and have it read in and not be as bad on your record. He completed the diversionary program but did engage with abusive behaviors towards me in front of the children during child exchanges. The worst part of all this is that he had his allies with him during a lot of these exchanges and some babysitter that was a participant in his abusive behaviors. because he was not caught he never got arrested and his charges were not reinstated!!! I couldn't believe it! No justice for me in Wisconsin. They also have an exchange program here in Wisconsin called The Parenting Place where exchanges can be done with no contact. The problem is that the abuser has to agree to use The Parenting Place as an exchange. He won't agree to it of course. All I can say is that I am at a huge disadvantage here. i have been isolated from every support system thanks to his smooth convincing that I am the one who has a problem and that he isn't the problem. Any ideas how to handle this situation and stay safe with exchanges with the children till something is court ordered?