Child home alone?

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My son is 7 weeks old, and I'm looking for someone opinion. My question is would it be OK in the afternoon if I left my son in the house alone for an hour, when he is sleeping in his baby cot?

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/12/2014

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/12/2014

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Gemma, you need to get a serious reality check.

When someone says they're "wondering if" it's ok, 9 out of 10 times it means "I've already done this, and I want validation".

Oh, and OP, I could care less if you're male, female, red, green or purple. You have zero understanding of your responsibilities as a parent, if you even contemplated this being ok for a nanosecond. FYI, car seats are generally not rated by AGE, but by WEIGHT. What weight is your car seat approved for? Furthermore, if you truly ARE in Hong Kong, your options multiply. Public transit. Cab. Rickshaw!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/12/2014

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Oh, for fuck's sake!

Someone find out where the OP lives and call CPS.

If he REALLY had the balls to ask if it would be OK TO LEAVE A SEVEN WEEK OLD BABY ALONE IN THE HOME, he doesn't have the requisite knowledge to raise that child safely.

So, what other idiotic things have happened to this poor baby in 7 weeks?

Short answer? NO IT'S NOT OKAY, ITS ILLEGAL IN PRETTY MUCH EVERY CORNER OF THE WORLD.

If you care that little about that child, turn them over for adoption. NOW. It ain't that fucking hard to take the kid out of the cot, put him in the car seat, drive to where ever your 'legal' business is occurring and pick up your funds.

That is, if it IS LEGAL business...

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I didn't stand up for him I said from the start that it was not OK but felt he was getting a little bullied then some people don't think I my self don't think at times when I feel threatened I was just saying if he was depressed ur mind goes crazy and we didn't no if he was to put up a post like that lol it was pretty extreme for a website

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/12/2014

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Marc, continuously flagging others posts for personal attacks when they are NOT personal attacks will get you no where, except having this thread locked sooner. My warning was directed at you personally, so keep it up.

Gena - posted on 05/12/2014

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I never "abused" you Gemma..i just couldnt understand that you still stood behind the OP. BTW i am doing fine and i take the very best i can,care of my son.

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Least I have a life a very good one u obviously have nothing better to do than throw abuse at people :) mister perfect I simply defended myself against ur comments and u just have d have the last word so gone a head just say it ......

[deleted account]

U wrote to me and am very sorry about what happened to you but in the other hand u decided d throw me abuse for trying d help some one in need and so I did !

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Am not dictation am personally voicin my opinion like use and when some1 slanders me and my parenting, I will defend my self and if I want to use slang for my words I will! Who do u think u r for critising me! I'm the one getting abuse for trying d see what his situation is!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/12/2014

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@ Marc: Yes, thought of, yes, DONE. Those are generally the stories you see a couple of days later, with a sobbing parent saying "I don't understand, I was only gone for a 'few minutes', and I came back and my newborn was dead".

If someone's going to ask that question, I'm going to answer just as I did. Furthermore, I'm not going to apologize, because you didn't even take the time to research your options.

[deleted account]

I just asked a honest question, which I believe many people have thought about before...

I'm rather surprised on how much abuse I'm getting on this site for asking some advice.

shame on you, for being damn rude and obnoxious!

[deleted account]

Get d fuk love I have not left my. Children in unattended and yes I have had postnatal depression but my children have always been looked after and loved it doesn't always mean u dislike or children am just saying I no what peoples mind frames r like Jesus u must b so god dam perfect . so no love I'm happily engaged with 2 beautiful children and am sure If u went in to a anxiety and depression for mothers and fathers they will soon tell u where d go as well he came and got his advice so end it

Gena - posted on 05/12/2014

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I dont know what its like to go through a hard time!!? My sister died in MY arms when she was 10yrs old...i had deppressions and anxiety,I know bloody well what its like to go through hard times.Using the f word isnt really mature..and i dont care about you or your parenting.My concernes were for this 7week old baby!So Bye Bye Gemma..dont ever write to me anymore!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/12/2014

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Marc, no one on this board needs help, as you so quaintly express it.

WE ALL UNDERSTAND that you don't understand that it's not ok, not even for a minute, not even in the 'circumstances' you've stated.

FURTHERMORE, in looking up the relevant laws in HK, you don't even HAVE TO HAVE A REAL CAR SEAT, a carry cot is considered acceptable for children under the age of 6 months, that can be either properly attached with the rear belts, or (as according to the website on child seat safety for Hong Kong) can be 'wedged in front of the back seat so as to offer a more solid fit'.

So, really, you don't have any excuse to even contemplate leaving a 7 week old child. Period. This is something that you and your partner should have considered BEFORE you had kids, or at the very least BEFORE one of you was going to be travelling and leaving the other home alone with the child.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/12/2014

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Then with your big cash pay out, buy a car seat for your baby! Give me a break. You live in a VERY small world if you think for a MOMENT it is ok to leave a 7 wk old alone. Lets pretend that your baby will be ok...what if YOU get into a major car accident and cannot make it home to baby?? How long do you think it will be before someone hears your 7 wk old screaming uncontrollably because he has been alone for god knows how long?????

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Aw I have 2 children love and no I would I never leave them by themselves but I've seen men and woman suffering from post natal depression and other etc so I no what kind of mind set their in and what way d talk d people u don't no what his situation is and what he could be sufferin I no its bad what he put up but u don't no his situation love and do not question motherin skills u obviously r a good parent but by ffuk u obviously haven't seen people go through some hard times. Marc is getting a nanny so at least he's getting help so u can fuk off we or comment on my life I'm doing a great job we my cchildren !

Gena - posted on 05/12/2014

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Big business man cant even find a car seat for newborns....shame.What a f joke!!

Gena - posted on 05/12/2014

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I wonder if you actually have children Gemma,Cause any normal sane mother wouldnt accept someone even asking this question! God,its not sooooo hard with kids that you even have the thought if its ok to leave a baby at home - ALONE! Look how many kids have died because the parents left them in the car alone for example. Gosh its heart breaking to even imagine a 7week old alone at home,if the baby wakes up and screams,cries cause no ones there.TERRIBLE!!!!

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Aye but he didn't did he its a hard life and he's on his own he came here for a bit of help and he got an answer u don't no his situation he got the answer that he needed ! And he's using the advise like other people do in this site give over HE AINT LEAVIN THE WAIN !

Gena - posted on 05/12/2014

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I havent read the all the comments...but HONOSTLY I was even to scared to take a shower in the bathroom while my 7week old was sleeping in another room..so HELL NO NEVER EVER leave a baby no matter if 7weeks old or 7yrs old alone while they are sleeping or not!! Look what happend to the girl Maddie that was sleeping and the parents left her alone in the hotel room. What if a fire starts,your child wakes up screaming and no ones there. Just AWFUL,even to only ask if its ok! And also NEVER EVER leave your child alone in the car,even if you just jump in the store "quickly".

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I live in Hong Kong and I do internal trade! My business is very very legal! I was only going to the city for fuck sake!
I don't have a child set for 0+ age,
I only have one for a 6 month+ age,
I can't find a child car set which is for 0+ age,
anyhow.. do you see my problem.
Plus my wife is in Taipei on business,
I don't live in the small word like some people.

Plus for the record I didn't leave him on his own, you sound like you love men lol

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/12/2014

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Actually Gemma, the question itself means he was considering, so what makes you think that if one person told him it was ok that he wouldn't have??

Jan - posted on 05/12/2014

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Ignore the nasty comments. It is NEVER ok to leave an infant alone. Honest question, admire the honesty.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/12/2014

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Well, if it is legal business, you can CERTAINLY take your child with you ffs. Of course parents are going to judge another parent for leaving an infant home alone. You were actually thinking about getting in your car, driving away from your child, and leaving him/her home alone at 7 weeks old. What do you expect??? Someone to actually tell you its ok??

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Here, this was just a thought I had to ask people, I didn't do it! who are you to judge me!? "the house burning down is my idea and thoughts" lol.
I needed to go and collect a large sum of cash at sort notice today! As I run a business, but I didn't go and collect it today. Tomorrow I'm hiring a nanny so this is the end of my problem. Thanks.

Promise - posted on 05/12/2014

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No. its not good at all. you can't even imagine it. Think about the safety of the baby.

Jodi - posted on 05/12/2014

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What the actual fuck? This is a troll question, right?

You do realise if child protection found out, you would lose your child. Not to mention the safety issue. And what if your apartment burned down?

If you think this is even an option, you should not be a parent.

[deleted account]

Lol I no its so hard to juggle everything while haven a baby with you all the ttimee it gets easier xx

[deleted account]

Thank you for your reply, I do have the same thoughts.... what if something did happen to my apartment block or my apartment, like a fire or anything. But I cannot help feeling it is very unlikely that anything would happen, because my apartment is built like an expensive Fort Knox. I believe you are correct, and I know I would feel guilt too.

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