Child or spouse...who comes first?

Megan - posted on 04/03/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




For me hand down when asked if my daughter was always going to come first...I just looked at him and said what kind of question is that, yes she will always come first. Then I got to thinking because that is such an open ended question. Plus I still truly don't understand his question.


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Jodi - posted on 04/03/2014




Well, it depends what he means by that, and can also depend on a lot of other factors. In general, you do have to put your children first, especially when they are younger. You brought them into this word, you have an obligation to them to raise them well and meet their needs in that respect. However, eventually children do move out of home and move on with their lives and partners, and you and your husband will be spending the rest of your lives together, so there are times where your husband will come first too. Even when they are smaller, there are times where your priority may be your husband over your children for certain things.

Ask him what he meant because there is no one answer to that one. It sounds like he was fishing and has something particular in mind when he asked.

Sam - posted on 04/03/2014




Tell him both. Mainly child but that is while they can not to there own things. He is probably jeleaous.

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