Child's father!

Helen - posted on 11/25/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hi my ex of two and a half years wants to see our son every weekend from Friday at half 7 to sunday at 12. During the end of out relationship he turned into a "freeman" and doesn't work, or claim benefits as there is 3 warrants out for his arrest on motor offences, he doesn't give me any money towards the child and is constantly causing hardship for me! He lives in his parents music studio with no ventilation as he has no money to afford rent, but he bought a bike for 1000 not too long ago, won't buy the child anything, not even clothes so I have to pack the bag and do the washing from clothes that hes had at his dads, his dad is telling him that the guards are bad which is wrong i think as if the child ever gets lost...go to a Garda and ask for help! He's telling the child the aeroplanes are spraying poison on us (he thinks the government is) And the child will only drink water but now he wont drink from the bottle water as his father is saying that the plastic is poisonous too, child comes home from his dads a very angry boy and forgets all manners and is rude to me, if I ask him to do something he'l tell me "you cant make me" he came home the other day saying that daddy told him not to be hugging or spending time with michael who is my boyfriend who is absolutely brilliant with the child and they have a great relationship but now I'm afraid of him ruining their bond that they have built up, I dunno what to do as I want the child to have his daddy but not when he's being like this! There are numerous other things he has done, all my friends and family say bring him to court as he's not paying maintenance or no set routine but I don't know, I'm quite scared!

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Helen - posted on 11/25/2013

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Yea I'm just terrified of him in general and I just need to overcome that! ...and I will thanks very much for the advice 😉 i keep putting it off and iv come to realise that there is no appropriate time to land a bombshell that I'm bringin him to court, but I think it just needs to be done at this stage, the father has just lost his mind and the way hes thinking and his perspective if the world is horrible and I don't want my son to have that negativity in him. Even about school...he thinks we should home school him but not by the books if ya get me, just let him run wild basically! And I know when my son hits 13-14 he's not gonna have an interest in school and he'l listen to his dad telling him "you don't need school...you don't need college...you don't need a job...you don't need money" i mean its just crazy. hope to god it all goes well!! Thanks!

Vellay - posted on 11/25/2013

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Court is the best solution I think.I used to hav the same problem and was scared to take action against him but one day I saw thst my kids were going astray and thats the day I went to courys and gues what I won custody and he just hav access to see them snd the court said if you breach yu lose the kids.

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