child's last name give dad more rights?

Brittney - posted on 08/28/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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ok so my (ex) boyfriend said i can either give the baby up for adoption or i give the baby his last name does giving the child his last name give him any more rights to the child?

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Firebird - posted on 08/28/2012

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If your ex is threatening to "make up story's to get her taken away", I hope you aren't actually talking on the phone or face to face with him. Make him text or email you, so if he does make up stories, you have proof that he planned it.

Jodi - posted on 08/28/2012

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They are not your only choices. Let him move out of the country to avoid child support, that sounds like a financially viable solution......but hey, it will leave you alone. If you don't want to give her his last name and you don't want to adopt her out, then don't. Just remember this....he can't MAKE you miserable, only you can choose that option. Don't let him get to you. You make your decisions, and how he reacts to that is his choice.

Jodi - posted on 08/28/2012

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Sorry, I'm confused, he is trying to tell you that if you don't give the baby up for adoption it must have his last name? No, his last name doesn't give him more rights, he will always have rights unless he signs them away. What those rights look like will depend on what the court decides. But you don't have to give the baby his last name if you choose not to.

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User - posted on 08/28/2012

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yea my situation gets incredibly confusing he has given me choices and i think hes bipolar i do not want to put my child up for adoption and he has told me i have to (i know i dont actually have to but its just what he says) he will not sigh over his rights he said if i keep the child i have to give it his last name or he will move out of the country to avoid paying child support or he will go for full custody and make up story's to get her taken away from me in my perfect world he would shut the hell up let me keep my child without trying to make me miserable and come visit her so she at least knows her father i do not want child support but hes convinced i do

Dove - posted on 08/28/2012

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A name is just a name and the father is the father. You could name the kid Frankie Bob Smith and the father would still have just as many rights as if he/she has the father's last name.



If the father wants nothing to do with the baby, perhaps you can get a lawyer and see if he can sign away his rights. Some states won't allow that unless there is another man to take his place as father... and some states might allow it. If he doesn't want to give up his rights though... he has rights no matter what the child's name is... and, more importantly, your child has a right to a relationship with his/her father.



Do YOU want to put the baby up for adoption?

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