Child sexual abuse

Stephanie - posted on 03/13/2015 ( 13 moms have responded )

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Does anyone know where there is help to connect with other parents whos children been sexually abused ?
I have one older child who's been abused , is now safe and another younger child who is being allowed by police and human services to be in the care of the alleged abuser. I would like to know why this is happening.

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Rebecca - posted on 04/08/2016

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For anyone who wants an update about my youngest child. They are still disclosing abuse. I've taken my child to the ER abuse team after daycare called me reporting suspicious burn marks. I have stopped reporting to police because they go back and tell the abuser who then threatens the child. If you go on FB you will find thousands of others in situations just like me. Family court and CPS need to be held accountable by someone. They don't seem to be doing anything other than collecting money from the govt and giving court appointed GAL's , therapists , court study workers and attys job security. Putting children into harms way per court order is NOT ok. Punishing a child by taking the mother away from them is court inflicted child abuse !!! Awareness needs to happen on this issue ASAP so it can be brought to light and somehow stopped. One child is too many and there are thousands and thousands out there who are being sexually abused and court ordered to be alone with the parent abuser. Wake up people and tell me how this ok and how can we stop it ? If we can't stop it , then allow us to create support for it please. Ive been told the govt doesn't want to give out grants for unsubstantiated abuse support, that's 80 % of the cases CPS labels ! Please pray that my child will
survive this and someday be able to get away.

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Barbra - posted on 04/07/2016

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I am trying to figure out how to find a support group as my daughter was raped by a youth minister 3 years ago and we are still dealing with this in the court system. It is extremely stressful. I too would like to connect with other parents who are trying to deal with similar situations.

Sarah - posted on 03/16/2015

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@ Norma Reyes- you put your request for advice in the middle of a thread about child sexual assault. You will get better advice if you start a new thread. Click on the pink tab in the upper right corner of the page that says "start a conversation"

Sarah - posted on 03/16/2015

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Stephanie I have been away the weekend. I don't understand why the police are turning a blind eye on your complaint. It is up the the DA and potentially a grand jury to see if there is enough evidence to hold a trial. You can usually get a legal consultation from an attorney for free and see if they lawyer has any suggestion.
My own sister was raped by our uncle when she was a child, she disclosed to my mom and another adult and nothing was done. She just recently went to the police and they arrested our uncle, then an investigation was started and is still ongoing. The reason she did this, is he just became a grandpa and the though of him raping his grandchildren was too much for her. The whole purpose of no time limit to press charges is to help the child victims that were ignored.

Norma - posted on 03/15/2015

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I have 6 kids they are all disrespectful . All 6 of them are like best friends I have 5 boys & 1 girl they are all one year apart . they are 12 , 13 , 14 , 15 , 16 . They have all been to juvie . they are gang relative to . like there father I hate it . they appreciate what I do for them but they get mad easy . all of them are quiet but they fight to much. They are all alike. Almost everyday I will get a call from school about there behavior . I know its emberising to hear how they are . they don't act like children . its there attitude . nothing will change them 😭 . I need advice

Stephanie - posted on 03/13/2015

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How do I pursue criminal charges for the older child exactly?
Therapist says he was abused. Police & CPS say not enough information to substantiate. My son has shared with 5 people , including police several different situations of abuse. Cps says great probability of CSA present , but unable to substantiate at this time.

Sarah - posted on 03/13/2015

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Pursue criminal charges for the older child. Presumably that was substantiated but no safety plan enacted do to the child is no longer at risk. If the charges were substantiated, then go to the cops and tell then you want to proceed with a criminal prosecution. There is no statute of limitations. If this man sexually assaulted your child and it was verified by investigation , he belongs in jail.

Stephanie - posted on 03/13/2015

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Imagine if this was your children and you're being told nothing can be done to protect them . It's beyond awful. Thank you soooo much for your feedback. I'm really at a loss for words with it.
If you have any advice or resources please let me know.

Sarah - posted on 03/13/2015

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I hold a professional license and I feel that I should be held to a higher standard and people are entrusting me with their bodies and their private information. I can't fathom that a doctor can get a free pass or less scrutiny simply becasue they are a doctor! That makes no sense.

Stephanie - posted on 03/13/2015

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I agree it's not! I have all the same questions and no one can answer them. Police and DA make the final decision to charge. Sadly the professional license is an issue and it states that right on CPS website. I've requested my youngest to be interviewed at advocacy center and they have already closed the case less than a month after report was made . I NEED to make more people aware of this! The more I try the more it makes me look bad. It's not right to have to sit and watch your children be abused and be told nothing can be done. The more people who know about this the better. Our laws are not designed to protect kids. Any ideas on how to bring awareness to my situation? Im certain there are more kids in my state. I'm scared to even post on this site , scared he will sue me next.

Sarah - posted on 03/13/2015

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No exception should be made simply because of a professional license. If your older child has disclosed, the perpetrator can still be prosecuted. CPS may not need to step in becasue the danger to the older child is no longer present but there is no statute of limitations on child sexual assault. The police don't get to decide if he gets arrested, if he is accused of a crime the district attorney can look at the evidence and decide to proceed with charges. Child advocacy worker are well trained to interview a young child and ascertain if an assault has occurred. As awful as it may be, young child should have had a sexual assault physical exam done as soon as she disclosed. How did she disclose to you but then cannot be interviewed by a caseworker.
To proceed with criminal charges, especially if the abuse of the older child is substantiated should happen. Something is not right with this situation.

Stephanie - posted on 03/13/2015

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CPS isn't saying it's untrue. They are saying "unsubstantiated at this time "My older child has reported to our
Local child advocacy center , teachers, therapist and police are no one is doing anything , because he is away and considered safe from the abuser.
However my younger child , half sibling, has half time placement and custody with alleged abuser (father). My oldest child who's disclosed several incidences of abuse to police has also been in therapy for CSA for over a year.
My youngest child had disclosed abuse to me but is unable to express to CPS without being "questioned" . I'm told if I keep reporting I look malicious and crazy.
I have no idea how to protect my youngest
My attorneys say I have to wait until the youngest is old enough to disclose. That could be years!!! They also say police are not charging because the alleged abuser holds a "professional license" (dr.)

Sarah - posted on 03/13/2015

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If you have a child in danger keep on reporting. If CPS and the police have deemed the abuse allegation untrue, what has happened to make you feel otherwise?
Depending on the age of the older child, there is a support group called ASCA, Adult Survivors of Childhood Assault. This is more for an adult, here is a link:

http://www.ascasupport.org/

For a teen there is a group called Weave, and here is that link:

http://www.weaveinc.org/post/teen-sexual...

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