Child stealing, any advice?

Kristine - posted on 08/22/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )




A little gir(7)l I look after has been having some major behavioural issues such as arguing, hitting, grabbing, jumping on furniture, scaring/bullying the younger kids. While these have improved slightly with discipline lately, today she was acting sneaky and putting things in her pocket. I asked her casually what she was doing to which she responded "None of your business. These things are mine!" IT turns out I found a fistful of change(not more than a couple of dollars) in her pockets, which I know weren't in there this morning as I hung her coat up and it was empty then. I asked again where it came from. She told me she found some in the couch(I understand this is tempting to a child of course) and some on my desk. I told her it is wrong to take things from other peoples houses no matter how big or small it may seem, it is never okay to take anything at all from anyone. She said "It's just a few coins". I again tried to reiterate this point, she told me I was wrong and shoould let her have the money, so I put her into a lengthy timeout. Which she has cried through the entire thing saying I am mean, rude, etc. I understand change in the couch or even on a desk is very tempting for a young child to take, however, my concern is her apparent attitude of " I can take whatever I want and should not be reprimanded or expect to return the taken item". I guess this is more of a rant than anything. Sorry! SO very frustrating as this behaviour never seems to resolve. It goes from one thing to another. As soon as hitting is solved she turns to jumping n my counters, tables, couches, now that ends and I deal with this. Any suggestions?
Thank you very much for your patience! Sometimes it's just nice to get this frustration out!


Alecia - posted on 08/22/2011




i would just keep at it. she seems to be testing you. show her you are always consistent and it will hopefully work itself out. sorry u are having a rough time

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