Child support

Veronica - posted on 01/27/2015 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I have an order for child support, however he is dodging the papers, and state says that he has to be served in order for any kind of action to be taken. It's been 4 years. They have his address and place of employment, of which he drives trucks. But he won't answer his door and he isn't physically at his job. I don't want to hurt the children by not letting him see them what do I do?

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Sarah - posted on 01/29/2015

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If you already have a signed judges order, it should be enforceable. It makes no sense that a judge can sign a support order and you cannot get his wages garnished.
Now if you have petitioned for a hearing and he is refusing to show for the hearing; there has to be a solution to him dodging support papers for four years! That makes no sense. Call the sheriff every day, they are the primary ones who serve papers. If that does not work hire a private process server they can stake out your ex and serve him. Or petition the judge to file an ex parte order; a court order that is entered at the request of one of the parties without hearing from the other party. Four years?

Raye - posted on 01/28/2015

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Again, don't let him see his kids unless he allows himself to be served the papers. It may not be "fair" to the kids to deny visitation, but it's also not "fair" to the kids that their father is a dead-beat who wont pay his share.

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Michelle - posted on 01/29/2015

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I wouldn't be holding the children to ransom, that can go against you if he ever took you to court.
Child support and visitation are completely separate issues and just because he's not paying support doesn't give you the right to deny him seeing the children.
I know it's frustrating but don't put the children in the middle.

Veronica - posted on 01/29/2015

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Thank you Sarah and yes they do all those things after the person has been served. Thats the big thing thats holding up. The woman said that they can't garnish any wages unless he has been served with papers.

Sarah - posted on 01/29/2015

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You can be tried for a crime in absentia, why can't you go to the judge and petition for the support to be garnished from his wages. You've made a good faith effort to serve him. Four years? How is he even renewing his driver's license, getting a state tax return with pending litigation?
The link to Missouri Department of Social Services:
http://dss.mo.gov/
If your order has been signed by a judge, then it is in effect whether or not he acknowledges the order and the following can occur:

FSD can enforce support orders through actions including, but not limited to, income withholding,
liens on real and personal property, federal and state income tax refund intercepts, license
suspension, passport denial, contempt and criminal nonsupport actions and referrals to other
states’ child support enforcement agencies (if the noncustodial parent lives or works outside of
Missouri).
On the site that I provided the link, every county office of child support is listed.

Veronica - posted on 01/28/2015

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Thank you Raye Ramsey I have wanted to know if I was wrong for feeling that way all these years.

Veronica - posted on 01/28/2015

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Well what I did was file for child support. And I received the package saying that the case has been opened. Then of I have been calling constantly checking and they said that the letters keep getting sent back because he refuses to sign for it. And he won't answer for the sheriff. So when I called to Jefferson City they said sometimes it takes year's to get people served.

Veronica - posted on 01/28/2015

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Here in Missouri they won't let me serve him. And one day I called to tell them when he would be here. I gave them a two hour window. They told me that there's no guarantee that they could get someone out here at that time to get him served because they only have so many officers. I asked if I could serve him myself she said no.

Raye - posted on 01/28/2015

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If you're there when he picks up the kids, he either signs for the papers or he doesn't see his kids. Have a friend/family or police officer wait with you until he shows up so he doesn't get violent with you. Let him take you to court over it. Then he would be able to be served for child support if he appeared in court.

Jodi - posted on 01/28/2015

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So you don't have court orders with regard to visitation specifying dates an times of visitation?

Veronica - posted on 01/28/2015

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Well he will never give a time when he comes to get the kids and sometimes he doesn't even show up. By the way I live in Missouri. And they say if they can't serve him he doesn't have to pay.

Jodi - posted on 01/27/2015

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Where on earth do you live where someone can get away with dodging papers for that long and not just to have it ordered anyway?

If the kids see him, why can't he be served when he is picking up the kids?

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