Dove - posted on 09/10/2015
The only thing I can suggest is to give it time. Focus on your child when he is awake... and give yourself time to grieve. I would 'guess' that I didn't even START to heal from my ex leaving until it had been around 8 months. It was hard and I was a mess.
Dove - posted on 09/09/2015
If he is denying paternity you can get a DNA test ordered through the courts.
It's best to have a court order for custody, visitation, and child support. If he works an 'on the books' job then child support will be taken directly from his check. If he files taxes any refund will be pulled out if he owes back support. If he works for cash and doesn't file taxes you can not 'make' him pay... but it will catch up to him eventually.
Child support and visitation have nothing to do w/ each other. A child has a right to have a relationship w/ BOTH of his/her parents regardless of any other issues at hand. Kids are not possessions to be rented out.
Get a court order and then what is required will be documented. Then you can just focus on yourself and your child and it's up to the father whether he is involved at all or not.
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