Child support battle

Jahyree - posted on 06/26/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My daughter is two I filed for child support back in October my daughters father is just starting to go to court at the last court appearance he questioned paternity now all of a sudden after two years he says shes not his I don't get it. He hasn't called or seen her in the last two months. What to do? Has anyone gone through this?

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Ashley - posted on 12/26/2012

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he has every right to ask for a dna test, especially if you were not married. if you know she is his, then dont worry. they will do the test, prove she is, and then write up court ordered custody agreement and child support. just be patient.

Mary - posted on 12/26/2012

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I am going through a similar situation with my son's father. The holidays have been disappointing because my son's father has not been around. Any advice that you think might be helpful to the situation will be greatly appreciated.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/26/2012

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Ja'Hyree,

I'm sure that's why he's asking. So, if you're sure, go him one better. Hand him that little certificate that says "proven to 99.99% that you are this baby's father"...and have your little private "I told ya so" moment (in your head...LOL...he'd probably not like the I told ya so...)

Because, I've seen both sides. Either the guy is supporting a kid because he married mom, and subsequently was tapped for support, but it's not his biological child, OR the guy was married, and now divorced, and pissed because he's being tapped for support, so they argue every little thing.

don't let him do that. Prove it to him, and let him stew.

Good luck!

Jahyree - posted on 06/26/2012

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@Shawnn Lively

I had been with this man for six years him only he was my only partner. We just recently broke up a few months ago so I saw no reason to file before then. I think I just pissed him off by filling for support

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/26/2012

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Have a paternity test done. He has every right to question paternity, if he wasn't your only partner at the time. And, why would you NOT want to fully establish paternity?

More than once, a guy has provided for a child that was not his biologically, but when tapped for child support after a divorce, asked for proof of paternity. IMO, it's a good way to be SURE on both sides. Then he knows for sure that he's obligated to support the child.

To be quite honest, you probably pissed him off by filing for support, so his response is that if you want support, you need to prove paternity. Why, if your daughter is 2, did you not file for support immediately? Just curious, so you don't need to answer that.

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