Chelle - posted on 10/10/2016 ( 12 moms have responded )
I have a 4 and 2 year old that I have primary care of. Their father watches them on Saturday's while I work and I pick them up after. I drop them off Sunday mornings and pick them up after work as usual. His job does not allow him to spend any other time with the children or even if he's available he is too busy or tired and never asks to have them. It works out right now that I work on weekends and he's off to watch them on those days; however he does not keep them overnight and sometimes he even has to work on the weekend. He has kept them overnight maybe 4 times for one night each. His excuse is that he cannot afford to keep them and feed them more than the time he has while I work on Saturdays and Sundays. He does pay child support. I moved here, because of him years ago, so I am away from family and it's important to me to have that support. So, my desire is to move which is 4 hours away from him. Yes, I want them to have a relationship with him; however the decision to divide our family was his. And I believe it's in our best interest to be near more of my family and people I can rely on. The children have always been 100% in my care from being a stay at home mom for their first years. He is honestly not involved in their day to day lives; it just so happens to be convenient for the both of us on weekends for him to see them now.