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I am here to get some stories from other moms about a child support hearing. I've never been to court so I am all over the place and I am so nervous. Here's some background history. I live in Alberta, Canada and I was a teen mother. I had my daughter when I was 17 years old and she is now 14 months and I am almost 19.
Her father and I were never together through out my pregnancy and still to do this day. He's seen her about 6 times and doesn't pay me a penny even when I when I ask for some help. When we seperated when I was 2 months pregnant it went sour and well, our families got into our business and well that didn't turn out to well since I was being called rude names and accused of cheating and they baby wasn't his. I was so stressed and I was hurt. So I said yeah, you know what the baby isn't his. I was so sick of all the drama I wanted to concentrate on my daughter and our future. When she was 3 months old I had told him the truth and 5 months after that we got a dna test which his mother just out of nowhere decided we all would get one and she would pay. It's a non legal dna test from a sketchy dna facility. From then on he seen her 3 times. When her 1st birthday rolled around he wanted to have a party for our daughter and I agreed and asked the time. He said 6pm-9pm and he lives 3 hours south away from us. So I asked if they could change the time and they said no and that we could sleep over But in no way was I going to sleep over after his mom calls me a cunt and a bitch (Excuse my french) and I didn't want my daughter on the highway for 3 hours after 9pm. It was the best intrest for her and they also wanted to keep all her birthday presents for when she went to visit there, and we went there and once and it costs alot of gas money and my daughter hates her car seat.. So I said we weren't coming but him and his family are welcomed anytime to see her.
So he came by the following Sunday and brought her diapers, wipes, milk, her birthday presents and thats pretty much all he has ever bought her, her entire life. Since than I have filed for child support against him bcause he didn't follow our plan on him paying $400.00 a month 2 months ago. I went to a mediator and she did the paper work. ALSO I have raised my daughter since the day I was pregnant alone with no help from her father until this month. But yet I still don't get a dime from him.. until child support comes but who knows not many dads do pay. My question is, whats the process? What do you do when you get to the court house? The ENTIRE process, so anything irrelivant to child support has be to filed? Like vistation or custody? Thats what i want to know and you stories about going throught it. Thank you ladies!