Child support!!! help!!!

Hannah - posted on 02/08/2016 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I have a 5 year old and i just now went for child support from my ex. my husband is in the army and I was wondering if anyone knows if my husband gets orders to move can my daughter and I go with him? or would we have to stay in the state were I filled for child support?? plz help

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Sarah - posted on 02/11/2016

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Everyone is correct but keep in mind that a judge will not rule that you cannot move out of state. Unless your ex wants to have full custody, then you will probably be permitted to take your child with you but the expense of visitation travel may fall on your shoulders. Do you have an amicable relationship with your ex? What is your current custodial arrangement?

Michelle - posted on 02/09/2016

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What Jodi said.
You will need permission to move as it affects the relationship between Dad and child.

Jodi - posted on 02/08/2016

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It has nothing to do with the child support. The fact is, if you decide to move, you need to seek permission from the biological father or the courts. It's about the father having a relationship with the child.

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Ev - posted on 02/11/2016

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Hannah,
All these ladies are right. You need to get the okay from court and the dad to be able to move as long as dad has reasonable time for visitation during the course of the year. The judge will have to decide if it is in the benefit for the child considering all things involved with the case.

Sarah - posted on 02/11/2016

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Absolutely Raye, perhaps I wasn't clear. No one can tel you, the mother, where you can live, but you can't take your child with you without a court order. One of my dearest friends had a clause in her decree that if she moved out of state, she could not take her sons. She was a single mother and had a great job offer in Florida. She had to pass and stayed in IL until her boys were 18.

Raye - posted on 02/11/2016

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Sarah, the judge may not rule that SHE can't move out of state, but the judge can rule that the CHILD cannot move out of state if they feel it's not in the best interest of the child and/or if the costs of visitation would be too cumbersome. You're right, if the judge allows the child to move too, then the burden of visitation costs would probably fall on the mother. If she just now went for child support, I'm guessing there are no current court orders for custody/visitation.

Raye - posted on 02/10/2016

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If you have permission from the court to take the child with you when you move, then the child support will still be provided to you. You would just file a change of address with the support office.

If you move, and don't get permission from the court, then you better hope and pray the father never takes you to court over it, because you'd likely lose. You would either have to move back with the child to allow the father access to the child, or the father would get custody and the child live with him. Then you can live wherever you want.

Michelle - posted on 02/09/2016

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The others have said it all.
Get yourself a lawyer and go to court.
Just because you have a new husband doesn't mean your child misses out on a relationship with her Father.

Jodi - posted on 02/09/2016

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Yes, you still need dad's permission to move. The point is, the child has a right to an equal relationship with both parents. If you just decide to up and move, you are denying her that right. That's not your call to make.

If you DO decide to just up and go with your husband without the father's or the court's permission, you could potentially lose custody altogether - it's called parental alienation.

Dove - posted on 02/09/2016

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Child support and custody/visitation have nothing to do w/ each other. When you have a child w/ someone you need to have either their permission or the court's permission in order to move the child.

I have full legal and physical custody of my children, but if I want to move anywhere that will impact my ex's visitation... I need permission from the court. Period.

It has nothing to do w/ your current husband and everything to do w/ the relationship between your daughter and her father.

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