Child support Issue

Brittany K - posted on 03/25/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Me and my fiance have been together almost a year now we are having a baby in June lately it has been a struggle for us to get by because he pays his ex almost $400 a month in child support. The FOC said they do not take in consideration the fathers bills seems as if the father could live on the streets for all they care as long as the child is being taken care of. I dont think its fair because he gets him every weekend and we never have enough money left over to do anything with his son or mine when we get them. It has been a stressful time for me also because it seems as though i have had to buy everything for this baby on my own and my income is only $400 a month. Please I am not trying to make this into a big dispute I am not saying that the child shouldnt be supported it just seems ufnfair that they claimed him on there taxes when my fiance has been paying support so no her boyfriend was not solely supporting him on his own and the arreage was taken out of his taxes which was $998 and her monthly support. She refuses to get a job and it just stinks :( . I know that the FOC said that once we have the baby which will be in about 13 more weeks he can file a motion for it to go down and i just want to know if there was any other step mommys in the same boat who could give me advice

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/30/2015

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Just because YOU don't receive support for your child, by your choice, does not mean that your boyfriend shouldn't be supporting his kid.

CUSTODY AND SUPPORT ARE TWO SEPARATE ISSUES, AND ARE TREATED AS SUCH BY THE COURTS.

If you don't have enough money to survive on, then get YOUR support in order for your other kid. Then there won't be so much of a 'burden' on the partnership when he pays his obligation.

Brittany K - posted on 03/30/2015

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Well his divorce should be going through if they can come to an agreement for parenting time so he is going to request a modification then. I dont receive anything in child support because i never have accepted it because i dont think its his responsibility to pay when i have my child plus it makes me feel better to know he cant ever say oh i bought that so i want it back. Im not saying that $400 is what takes care of a child but I just dont feel it is fair that he can barely afford to pay his bills because of it and i would look for a job if i wasnt almost 7 months pregnant i have been working enough to get what i can make for now which is $400 a month but its seriously doesnt seem right that he has to scrounge while this chick can just live her happy life off the state i am really upset because i do not want to return to work right away after the baby is here because that is when you get the most bonding time not that i am being selfish i just dont feel its right that she can sit at home and not even attempt to get a job while i wiill be juggling
a 5 year old ( My son) a newborn baby in June ( My son ) and his 8 year old and trying to get a job i will do whatever i have to to make sure my children are taken care of but i feel the courts should make the mother go and make a living they cant expect the father to do everything there whole lives what will they do when the child turns 18 they wont be receiving any of that money its just common sense i think

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/25/2015

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If he feels his support obligation is unfair, and can provide solid financial numbers backing that, he has every right to ask for a modification. If he's asked and been told no, well, there's your answer.

$400 a month is a drop in the bucket when it comes to child expenses, as you well know. Perhaps its time for you to look for a better paying job so that you won't feel so stressed about your part of the joint expenses.

What do you get for support for your child?

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