children aid in my life

Tabatha Marie - posted on 02/04/2014 ( 8 moms have responded )

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hi im righting this about children aid my worker is a b**ch im now getting married to my loving man and she is telling me i cant see him any more he a good guy dont do any drugs and he to has a baby of his own he love my lil girl like it was his own i my self have had people call on me for no resins saying that i hit my kid or i don't have any thing for her or she got to much toys they have been called on me 15 times for all the same resins and every time the children s aid showed up there has not been nothing wrong i my self don't do drugs im a good mom and also my mom has been trying to take my lil girl cause she been not wanting to see me happy at all ever scene i moved out on my own there was a one time i went out to get some stuff for Alyssa birthday and came home to my apartment in a mess due to my room mate and my dog i had to sell ripped the garbage all over was not happy but with in minuets my case worker walked in and said i had tell 7 pm to kick out my room mate and to have the place clean by 7 i had it supper clean and my room mate was gone she came with my mom and took her and gave her to my mom she said i had 4 month to prove to her i can be her mom then my mom used that to say if u dont do what i want u to do all send her to live with your cuz she did it any ways now i live with my cuz and my baby with her 4 kids and dad but my cas worker is still up my ass telling me im not ready to be a mom cause i go to see my man who she wont let me bring him over for a weekend she has not even meet him or his family if she would only know that his family are amazing people and we only got 12 years to spend time with his dying mom as she got cancer

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Jodi - posted on 02/05/2014

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Well, unfortunately, I don't have the answers for you. You need to ask the childrens aid worker why you can't see him any more. She should be able to give you a reason. If she can't, then maybe go higher up and ask to speak to her supervisor. Maybe she can't give you a reason due to invasion of his privacy - maybe there is something he hasn't told you about his past. Does he have an arrest record or a criminal record? There could very well be things you don't know about him.

And you still haven't answered why you think I am 36. I'm not 36. And yes, 23 is pretty young.

Tabatha Marie - posted on 02/05/2014

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yep it happened to me there are people out there that got nothing better to do with them self but to make others feel how they feel

Jodi - posted on 02/05/2014

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What makes you think I'm 36? That makes no sense and is irrelevant to the discussion anyway. I'm just having a hard time believing anyone could have children's aid called on them 15 time without some sort of issue.

Tabatha Marie - posted on 02/04/2014

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your only 36 so no im not that young do to her dad being 35 at the time and is now 37 years old and he clams he dont want her

Tabatha Marie - posted on 02/04/2014

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and how it couse my land lord is crazy and has bad bi polo er and my man is 23 and he has a job working on cars i would never lay a hand on her ever i have done nothing wrong just meet some crazy people all i got are witnesses that can back me up all the way

Tabatha Marie - posted on 02/04/2014

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i see him every 2 weekend and we meet 1 years ago and she is 1 and yes if you only new the people i knew and the town i lived in was nuts and the people are very weird and very nosy i have had people brake into my place a few times it a small town and i was the new one that moved in so yes thy have called for know resin also most of them have lost there own kids or they let there kids do drugs trust me when i was living in Kitchener before i had no problems tell i moved out there

Jodi - posted on 02/04/2014

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Well, people don't call them 15 times for no reason. I have a lot of questions. It certainly isn't ideal to introduce someone into your child's life until there has been some time to establish your relationship. How old is your child? How long have you known him? When are you spending time with him (as in, should you be looking after your child). And how old are you? I am guessing you are very young, maybe there is concern.

Also, by your own admission, you can't actually look after your child on your own. You are not in your own home, you are having to share homes with others. There could be question on your motive in deciding to marry this man. Also, while he may not do drugs, does he have a criminal record? Does he have a job? How old is he?

And why would people report you for hitting your child if you weren't?

Can you see how these things may be questions about your ability to parent your child?

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