RYLIE - posted on 04/20/2015 ( 11 moms have responded )
My boyfriend (and father of my child) is working on getting joint custody of his 2 boys from a previous marriage. We live far away so he can not visit as often as he would like. Their mom agreed to let them come stay with us for 10 days this summer, they are 2 and 4 so that seemed like a fair amount of time to start them out with. He wants to increase the time they are here by a couple days each year until it is a 4 week visit after school gets out and a 3 week visit before school starts so that they can gradually get used to being away from her for longer amounts of time. She seems to thing that that plan would mentally harm them and they would think that she abandoned them... Her idea is to keep it at 10 days until they are 6 and 8 then switch to a 4 week visit at the beginning of summer and a 3 week at the end. I don't understand how springing a huge visit like that on them is in their best interest. I think that she is just being difficult because I know that both of them can understand the concept of vacation and also understand when you tell them that mommy isn't coming on the trip with us. Any insight or suggestions would be wonderful.