Children influenced by celebrities/music?

Melissa - posted on 12/30/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My daughter and her friends are in 8th and 9th grade (she's in 8th, but has some 9th grade friends who hang out as well.) I notice that all of them, including my teen, may be influenced by singers like Miley Cyrus, Nicki Minaj, Rihanna, etc. My daughter often uses inappropriate language and sometimes swear words may just "slip out" of her mouth. I told her that that kind of language is inappropriate, and I do not tolerate behavior like that. Her friends' moms have told me something about THEIR children using inappropriate words frequently as well...they created a club called the Bad B*tches Club and that "whoeve wants to be a bad b*tch can join". I know that some singers that the children listen to considers themself that name they just named their club. It got to the point where I had to set strict limits for her and got her phone taken away. The music videos that tweens and teens are into are very inappropriate and not suitable for kids - the celebrities wear revealing clothing, rap about sexual/drug-related topics, and have inappropriate scenes. I don't want to get to the point where I have to restrict my child from listening to what she wants. Any ideas? I restricted her electronics already...but there's always music at parties, school dances, friend's house, outside of home, and elsewhere.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/30/2015

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I totally agree, her behavior is the problem, not necessarily the influence of music. You can also get her into after school programs, volunteer as a family at a soup kitchen. Get her involved outside of her friends.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/30/2015

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When I was in 8th grade, I bought the ever coveted Use your Illusion ll by GnR. I showed my mom, and I was SOOOO excited. It said on the front "parental advisory advised". My mom promptly made be go return it. SOOOO embarrassing. It was terrible. She had already heard this music on tapes made by friends for me. It was no big deal.

Kids are going to listen to music and be influenced. That is life. You can certainly restrict phones and computers. If her behavior is really bad, yeah crack down. Let her listen to her music though. Come on. BUT, be a parent. Explain that this is not real life. Pop singers and stars have privilages that regular people don't.

Another thing, introduce her to other music that would interest her. Old school stuff, but really great stuff. Rolling Stones, U2, Beatles, Pearl Jam, Nirvana, hard core Girl stuff like PJ Harvey (kick ass!!). There is so much you can do, but limiting her music isn't going to help.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/30/2015

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You've done what you can. There is absolutely no reason why restricting artists who use profanity, etc, should be a problem.

Once the kids are 18, they can choose what they listen to, or watch. Until then, they can listen to (or watch) approved things. When my kids were those ages, I had no problem restricting Kid Rock, Prince, and whatever Marshall Mathers (m&m?) called himself. My kids had no problem either, and as they got older they developed a very discerning ear as far as what genres they enjoy.

You can also bet that the school functions will not have any profanity laden entertainment either. If you and the other parents band together, and ALL ban the nasties, then the kids won't have a choice.

MaryAnn - posted on 12/30/2015

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I... Think you may be overreacting. The music is not the issue. The behaviour is. If she is choosing to mimic it, it is a decision she has made, and you should probably talk real world consequences with her.

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