children sexually abused by father

Angie - posted on 08/19/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My children are 11 1/2 and 8 and they were sexually abused by there father. He's in jail now and there will be a lifetime no contact order on the kids for the rest of his life. I'm getting married again next month and I am trying to figure out how to take my ex husband's rights away since he can't see them ever again so my new husband can adopt them. My kids love my soon to be husband. They have even started calling him step dad. We live in Washington state

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/19/2015

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I agree with Little Miss. Give it time to see if 1) The marriage is going to last, and 2) your kids WANT to be adopted by their step father.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/19/2015

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Or at the very least, live as a family for a couple of years, and see if adoption is the right choice.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/19/2015

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Just because he is going to be a step dad, does not automatically mean that he should adopt them. I don't know how long you have been with this man, or how long he has been in your kids lives, or when the sexual abuse began/ended. This would be an even bigger mess if you married this man, he adopted your children, then the marriage didn't work out. You can have a wonderfully fulfilling life without the adoption.

Yes, definitely contact a lawyer to help guide you along, regardless of your decision.

Mind you, my opinion is coming from being a step child. I would NOT have wanted adoption.

Raye - posted on 08/19/2015

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So sorry that happened to your children. You should speak to a lawyer that is familiar with custody disputes and/or adoption, and knows the laws in your area. Good luck to you and your family.

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