Christian doula in Bakersfield,CA area?

Kira - posted on 06/10/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Anyone know of one? I've found several doulas in bakersfield but none seem to be Christian (at least I don't see it on their websites). Im 5 weeks pregnant and I'll be attempting a vbac, so I feel like a doula would be very helpful for me after what I went through with my daughter.

43 hours of total labor and got an epidural 28 hours in due to extreme exhaustion then oxytocin because I stopped progressing after getting the epidural. I finally dilated only to push for 3 hours be told I needed a csection. It turned out she was very poorly positioned. Trying to come out cheek first result in some neck issues and requiring a helmet for three months when she was a little older.

I really feel like a doula would help me and I know my husband would be supportive if I told him that's what I want, but I haven't brought it up with him because I just haven't found a Christian doula yet.

Thanks!

Edit- I'm sorry if this is in completely the wrong place. I'm still learning the website though. This is very different from any other forum/internet community I've ever been a part of and I've been on a lot. I like it already though and I'm getting used to it.

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Mary - posted on 06/11/2013

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Kira, you're going to need to actually speak with and/or meet these doulas to see if they might be fill whatever specific needs you have with regards to faith and spirituality. Since at least 78% of Americans today identify themselves as being "Christian", the chances are pretty good that at least a few of the doulas you've found are, in fact, Christian. However, they most likely will not make mention of their religious beliefs on any websites or advertising. Just like any type of healthcare worker/provider, they are there to offer their services to ALL, regardless of faith. Making a point of their own personal beliefs on their website would most likely scare off any potential clients that either don't share their faith or don't see religious beliefs as a priority to the services they are offering.

I'm a nurse, but I don't ever make it point to share my personal beliefs with my patients. In fact, doing so would be frowned upon and considered unprofessional. For healthcare providers, the expectation is that we are there to provide the best possible care for ALL patients, no matter what their faith. If I were a devout Catholic, and made mention of that to every patient I had, it could make a patient (or their family) uncomfortable if they were Jewish, Muslim, Atheist, or even Baptist. It could give them the impression that I am somehow judging them, or am prone to dislike them because they are different from me.

That is not to say that nurses, doctors, or doulas never pray with patients, or can't be supportive or even a participant in our patient's spiritual needs. If I were a Jewish nurse, and my Jewish patients were praying, I am certainly able and "allowed" to join in. The responsibility of any healthcare provider is to be supportive and respectful of all patients, whether we share in their beliefs or not.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/26/2013

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Tesa, that is also considered soliciting, which is against the guidelines. It is always best to send a PM with any personal information. Glad you took it that route.

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K6online - posted on 06/24/2013

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Oh my goodness! Im sorry if I did not follow protocol, The information I posted was my business contact information and is available in many search engines across the internet. Thank you for thinking about my safty and well being. I will contact this mamma via Pm. blessings

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/22/2013

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Tesa, it is incredibly unsafe to give out your personal information on an open forum such as CoM. I have delete your post due to this. Please send her your information in a private pm. We have many wonderful caring mothers on this site, but also a lot of people with ill intentions.

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Kira - posted on 06/11/2013

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The most helpful point made here is actually meeting them. I think I'll do that and see for sure. I opened this thread in the hopes to use social networking to find a doula who shares my belief in God and who will pray for me and with me and my family. I don't want to start any fights or offend anybody.

Michelle - posted on 06/11/2013

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Why are you so intent that they be Christian? All professionals are trained in their job regardless of religion.
Like Mary has said, they aren't going to advertise their religion as most people wouldn't have it as a deciding factor. The most important thing is to find one you're comfortable with rather than religious beliefs.

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