Christmas, my house or grandparents?

Brittany - posted on 10/15/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )




I have always been a single mom with the father not involved at all. We have always went to my parents house the night before Christmas and spent the night, woke up there, and did the whole presents thing; then we go to my grandma's house with the rest of our family.
My children will be 6 and 7 this year and my oldest has expressed unhappiness that we don't do it at our house and that she would like to.

I always did it because I felt sad, I guess?, in a way, that it was just me and them so we went there. This past April, my dad passed away, so now it's just my mom there.That may have something to do with it. I know I need to transition them into coming to our house at some point anyway but I am sure it's going to upset my mother. I was going to invite her to stay at my house, if we did, and she could do the whole Christmas thing with us here.

What do you think? I need opinions.


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/15/2016




Well, it could be too much of a change, as Jodi suggested, or your mum may welcome having it at your house, to start a new tradition after losing your dad. Why don't you run it past her, and see?

Jodi - posted on 10/15/2016




I'm thinking that this is already going to be a really difficult Christmas for your mum, being the first one without your dad. I'm not sure that I would make the change this year, but that's just my opinion. I'm sure, if you decided not to stay home, your children would understand that this year you all need to help their grandmother with what has been such a big loss for her, and that maybe next year you can make the change or even discuss alternate years.

Michelle - posted on 10/15/2016




It's up to you.
We always went to my Grandparents place until they died. We then had it at my Mum's but for the last 4 years it has been at my house. Mainly because my Mum doesn't have room to have us all stay and I am the only one with children.
This year it will be at my Brother's house.
Christmas should be about spending time with family, not that place that you go. Let your Mum know that your children would like to stay at home this year and that she is more than welcome to come to your place.

Dove - posted on 10/15/2016




It's your (and your children's) Christmas. Do it how you all want to.

I will tell you what we do and have done almost every year for 15 years. Christmas Eve our church does a big service, so the kids and I go to that and then go home to sleep. First thing in the morning is presents and breakfast at home w/ just us and then we go to my dad's for those presents and lunch and stuff. That was the tradition almost every year (a couple years it was different) when I wasn't single and still has been the past 8.5 years that I've been single.

If your daughter wants to be at home... work that in and work it out together.

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