Casey - posted on 02/06/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
Hello- I am new to this site and to online communities in general. I am feeling frustrated with my partner's lack of partnership regarding household chores. Let me preface by saying that he is a wonderful, loving husband and father and does a great deal for the family without complaining. Usually. He works a full 10 hour day while I stay home and care for our 3 children (2,4 and 6) and two additional kids two days a week. Let me also say that I just started my period last night.
With that said, he just spent a week away on a fun trip with the boys and upon his return I am feeling like he's not contributing enough-- leaving the dishes at night or half-assign the job, has not touched the enormous heap of clean laundry that I haven't had time to fold and put away, throwing the coats I put on the stairs to be hung in the coat closet in the middle of the floor because he doesn't like things on the stairs... We are beginning to needle each other. While normally we work as an ok team, I feel tired, and sick, and a little overwhelmed (we also just moved into a new house and I've done all the unpacking and organizing and cleaning and cooking and putting beds together and...you understand, right?) but I expect him to recognize this without having to boss him around and make him do it. Do I have that right, or are these things simply my duty as a stay at home mom? I do not mind these things overall but I sometimes feel like a servant in my own home. I cannot be alone in this feeling, can I? Some input would be so helpful-- thank you!