Wendy - posted on 05/09/2011 ( 55 moms have responded )
My 3.5 month old used to have a really hard time falling asleep. He is a greater sleeper once he falls asleep at night (naps are a different thing...), but sometimes it would take us 2 hours to get him down for a nap or bed no matter what we did - nurse, rock, walk, bounce...etc. He has never just went to sleep peacefully and calmly on his own. At our wits end we tried CIO. It is now a week into it and he's sleeping great (often times 12 hours through the night). I would always nurse him if he woke up at night.
My question to Moms who were successful at CIO - is the goal to be able to put your baby down to sleep without any fussing or crying? My DS would usually cry for around 5 minutes, sometimes 15-20 if he was overtired or not tired enough. There were a few times around the 3rd and 4th day when I was able to put him down in his crib and he would only *fuss* for half a minute - enough time for me to walk to his bedroom door - when he would quiet down. However that's never happened again. Now it's usually crying for 3-6 minutes. I'm wondering why he "regressed" from his early training days?
Also, I've noted that in the beginning, it was easiest for him to sleep when he's had 1hr 45min of awake time. That was when he only fussed for half a minute. However now, when I try to go to 1hr 45 mins, he would start to fuss earlier, often times during the nap/bedtime routine. Not sure what's going on here. Should I shorten the awake time because he is already tired? Or do you think it's possible that he's associated the routines with having to cry in bed???!
** PLEASE I am not soliciting opinions from Moms who are not supporters of CIO. I am not looking to debate it's merits. Thanks. **