Circumcision - let your son decide IF he wants it done when he is an adult

Denise - posted on 10/15/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I've noticed a lot of debates on here regarding circumcision...and the ones who are pro-circ talk about how their young child is fine and it's better to do it when he is just a few days old. But I haven't read any postings about how the son feels once he has become a teenager or grown-up. What do they say? Well I am speaking out on behalf of my 15 yr old son! He HATES that he was circumcised as an infant...that part of him was cut off ...against his consent!! He feels UNWORTHY and MUTILATED and LESS A MAN because of it!!! Please, you may feel you are making the right decision for him having it done as an infant, but when he is old enough to realize what was done and the procedure done on him and is angry and depressed over it - you will regret having it done to him!!!! Every part of the penis that a boy is born with is important - please don't take that away from him!!! ~signed remorseful/regretful mother

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Marc - posted on 11/02/2014

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I have had this done. I dont call it circumcision either.. i have looked into this alot.

I will not describe the details of the 'fruits' of this procedure at all from my experience.

The area supposed to be the most intimate and private. What a wonderful area to attack, least chance of talking about it, least chance of this abuse being seen by others. I am reminded of people who beat others, targetting unseen areas so that noone will find out.

It is actual bodily harm to infants supported by world health organisation leaders who have invented and sell the devices to do it. Foreskins are sold at £40 each to make face creams and stem cell research. Its about control, whether 'religious' or 'state' or social.

Always follow the money... always follow the money. this has nothing to do with what so called doctors who break at least 5 oaths that they swear to by doing this.

what do you first think....?

Dont ponder about it. Dont try to make any good or bad points at all in your heads. Your heart is immediate, it doesnt need any debate.

Come on.... whats your first reaction to a child being pinned down so its fight is gone and then having its most sensitive area ripped off as its first experience in life and of humans?

Circumcision of the heart..... dont read sacred texts with silly brains in a jar, its soooo easy to do this. Maybe you ought to open your heart first before foillowing books that assume your heart is already open.

Anyone who agrees with this procdure is either religiously controlled, financially controlled, controlled by tradition, being the same as others controlled, controlled by fear, or have had it done to them and want unconscious revenge that they are unaware of. Plain and simple.

Do unto others.........

Admit it......... you dont really know do you? I can see that you are all not really sure.
And you would do such a thing without being 100% sure.... amazing

Denise - posted on 10/16/2014

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Gena - first, I believe circumcision should be the last resort if a medical issue is presented. Other treatments besides surgery have been proven to work in certain situations, but if those treatments did not work, then yes if MEDICALLY necessary circumcision should be done. My issue is with routine infant circumcision because of the FEAR that something may happen later. There are a lot more men in the world who have not been circumcised and have no problems.

Philomina - I appreciate you responding, but you proved my point when you stated that circumcision is part of YOUR religion and YOUR opinion...( it does not mean it will be your sons' religion too). Circumcision was part of my religion too - I thought since god commanded it in the bible it surely must not have been a bad thing.....but that line of reasoning really is dumb now that I know the bible quite well now. Since god said to the Israelites to kill every man, woman, and child of the other people, or how about when he told them they should keep the virgins for themselves (to rape), or what about slavery and misogyny - just because it's in the bible doesn't mean it's good. I allowed my religion to do my thinking instead of using my own brain and reason. My religion changed - and just because we believe something does not mean our sons will follow the same religion - that should be their choice too. It's their bodies, their choices.

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Denise - posted on 10/16/2014

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Thanks Chet - where I live it was the norm. I never knew of a man who was not circumcised and when my boys were born my husband, not knowing any differently, thought it was a definite need. I just feel that if I had known just one man to have said he was not circumcised I would have felt more confident to say no to it. I feel so angry and sad - I just found out that my own father was not circumcised (and yet I knew that my brother was -my father's decision because he knew of two guys who had problems in adulthood - but apparently my father never had problems). You are right to say if needed it could be done later - and I believe if a man truly understands what happens because of a circumcision he would not choose to have it done for a non-medical reason.

Chet - posted on 10/16/2014

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I was born in a place where it's borderline impossible to get a baby circumcised. Our kids were born in a place where less than 5% of baby boys are circumcised. I've always thought it made sense to not circumcise by default and do it later if a reason to ever came up. Because exactly, you can always go and get yourself circumcised later if you want.

I don't think baby penises heal faster than adult ones. I haven't read a lot about adult circumcision, but I was under the impression that it was healed in well under 6 weeks.

I don't know what I would do in the case of religion. I know there are movements with the jewish faith that question or reject male circumcision.

Philomina - posted on 10/15/2014

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Circumcision is best when they are babies, because of the pain involve so by the time they are 6weeks old the penis will heal. All my boys were circumcised when they were a week old. It is part of my Religion so they ask no questions about it and they are fine. But that is my opinion.

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