Circumsision? Pros and Cons?

Rebecca - posted on 01/18/2010 ( 20 moms have responded )




Hi there everyone, i am debating if i should get my son circumsised or not, and was wondering opinions from other people, and hoping to hear feedback from mums that have had it done to there children, and what age ect.


Krista - posted on 01/18/2010




I highly recommend against circumcision. Unless your son has a medical condition like phimosis, there is really just no real need to remove perfectly healthy tissue from his body. If you're worried about cleanliness, it's really not that difficult to keep clean. Just wash his penis gently with soapy water like you do the rest of his body. Whatever you do, do NOT try to pull back the foreskin. Leave it alone -- it'll retract on its own when he's older. And if you're worried about aesthetics, fewer and fewer parents are getting their babies circumcised, so by the time he's old enough for someone to see his penis, uncut penises will be pretty common.

Oh, and if you're still uncertain, please research what the procedure actually entails. It's not painless, despite what some people would tell you. Remember how I told you that it's not good to pull back the foreskin? That's because the foreskin is still attached to the head of the penis. In order to circumcise a boy, they have to stick a tool up the hole in his foreskin and forcibly separate the foreskin from the glans.

Please don't do it. It's his body, not yours. If he wants to get circumcised later, that should be his choice.

Terri - posted on 01/25/2010




I had both my boys circumcised and wouldnt have it any other way. My hubby is and I personally find it nicer. We got a lot of flack about it from his relations and had a hard time getting a referral with drs trying to talk us out of it. But we stuck to our guns and paid the extra money to get it done. I have seen numerous friends of mine who have had to get their sons done at about 10, 11 years of age and I wasnt going to put my sons through that.

If we had had the choice we would have had it done the next day but due to protocol of referrals we had them done asap. My first son being about 9 days and my second 5 days. In Australia they dont cut anymore. They use a little ring which falls off in about 6 to 10 days. My second son only let out a little murmer when he had it done and proceeded to fall asleep on my boob. Both my boys showed no sign of discomfort afterwards. I dont believe in this nonsense about them remembering the pain. I had my ears pierced at 4 and I cant remember that lol! As to female circumcision that is a totally different ballgame to male. But it is a choice that you and your partner have to be happy with. Just dont let people put you down whatever your decision is and stick to your guns either way. Happy decision making :)

Sheri - posted on 01/25/2010




It is a social decision and not physically necessary or beneficial. Like anything, there are rare exceptions to that statement. We left our son intact, and he can decide later. I found a device available online that can be used by a person on himself that is minimally uncomfortable if my son decides to make that change later. My husband is not happy with the circumcision he got as a newborn, so he agreed to leave our son's equipment alone. I am also horrified by the pain aspect for the baby.

Susan - posted on 01/25/2010




Hey everyone! I am new here and just thought I might join in on the conversation. I have 3 boys and a girl. None of my boys are circumcised. With the first one, being new parents and alone, we did not realise the care required in cleaning and he did get an infection-but nothing serious. With the twins, everything has been fine with no issues at I would say leave well enough alone when it comes to this topic:) God bless

Shelagh - posted on 01/25/2010




In the UK it simply isn't an issue - at no point did it ever cross my mind to even think about whether or not to have my son circumcised. As to cleanliness - well, showers and baths are good, and you just include 'how to clean your willie' in with all the other stuff - 'how to clean your ears', 'how to wash your hair', 'how to wipe your bum'. Why should it be a big deal? I genuinely don't understand why it would be seen as normal to remove a natural part of the body. We don't allow female circumcision, why do we allow the male equivalent?


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Jamie - posted on 02/26/2015




Ok so I've been having a problem with the whole circumcision thing. I'm relatively new to the U.S. but I married an American who is circumcised but In my culture it's not as common. During sex it felt great but I've been reading up and can't make up my mind. So far circumcision is in the lead

Jessica - posted on 01/25/2010




I know there is great debate on this procedure, and that it is medically unnecessary except in extreme circumstances, but it boils down to what the family wants. It's not a cleanliness issue, foreskin or not, they learn to bathe. I have three boys and each of them was circumcised within two days of birth. Yes, it is a painful procedure and many would ask why you would put your child through something so unecessary. The fact is it was done and over with a few seconds, none of my boys cried very long and they were too young to even remember it happening. Nothing was cut wrong and all went very smoothly and each of them healed within a week. The reason I had it done was more of family acceptance. Not that our families would have rejected my boys if they weren't circumcised, but it helps that they feel like are like daddy when growing up. I have never met any man that has not had the procedure. Being so, if all little boys want to be like daddy, I feel it's safe to assume the majority of boys that my sons grow up with will by circumcised as well.

Kelly - posted on 01/25/2010




i agree with krista. however, both my brothers were crcumcized, we havent gotten my son circumcized minly because my partners not. IF you really want to do it though, i would get it done reasonabkly young so that he wont remember it.

Sheree - posted on 01/24/2010




I am the same as natasha, im in australia and more often then not boys dont have it done. All the males in both my family and husbands havent had it done and had no problems as far as i know. If your doing it because of cleanliness, make sure you son knows how to wash himself when he has a bath or shower. My other argument is that it is a sexual organ, a guy i used to work with said it made sex less sensitive for him as it was rubbing on his pants all day, so when he had sex it wasn't a mind blowing experience for him. So i think in that case, you wouldnt have your daughter's clitoris removed so why do it to your son. I know thats not going to affect him till later on in life, but still something i think you should consider. Again this is just my opinion, but i would never put my son through it.

Natasha - posted on 01/24/2010




In live in Australia and it is quite the norm to be uncircumcised. All the males in my family and my husbands family have never been circumcised. They all practice good hygiene by showering everyday and pulling the foreskin back to clean. It is all over and done with within 5 seconds. I have never even met a man who has been circumcised. I have never even heard of any male family members having any problems with infections etc.

Erin - posted on 01/24/2010




My son had it done... never had any kind of problem. And all the moms that say it is painful and what not... If you get it done at the hospital before you leave after he is born.... THEY DONT REMEMBER the pain. Honestly he cried for like 2 seconds! And as long as you keep the 'wound' clean while its healing you should have no problems!! Also if you get it done when they are older like 2 of course its going to hurt them more... also if you have a son like mine... they pull their diapers off and tug on it...All little boys 'play' with it! All in all its less traumatizing when they are 'new'!!

Lisa - posted on 01/24/2010




I am in the same boat because we are about to have a little boy in April. I asked a few of my family members and my MIL gave some good sound advice. She knows of people who did not get circumcised and have had many problems with it. She even knows of grown men who have decided to have it done because of the issues they've had. A friend of hers is also married to a man that was not circumcised and her friends has had issues with infections because of bacteria that she gets from him.
Of course there is always the issue of not wanting your son to be made fun of when he is showering or changing in gym during school and also whether or not the dad is circumcised. Those two were not really as important to me as what my MIL said. I think she has convinced my husband and I to have the procedure done on our son.

Anna - posted on 01/24/2010




Hey Bec.

I thought about getting done too as Rick is and wanted Kobe to be same as his dad. But after lots of considerable thought, I couldn't face putting him through a medical procedure for no medical reason. Plus I figured most little boys these days aren't done, so he wouldn't be the odd one out or anything. He has had no problems and I'm happy with my choice.
But remember ultimately the decision is yours, and don't feel guilty or bad whatever you decide. Hope this helps.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/19/2010




Well, one way to decide is to look to the father. It is often said that the moms want father and son to be the if daddy is circumsized, so is baby. My husband is not, so we did not circumsize our boy....that was an easy decision.....I personnally think it is barbaric...It is not dirty, and just make sure that you teach him to clean himself properly when when the time comes. This is an extremely difficult decision for a mother to make. My sisters 2 sons had it done....and one of them is going to have to have surgery later on in life to correct what they did wrong the first time! Also...any women in here that has had sex with a circumsized man, and then sex with an uncircumsized man...well...which is better? Sex with an uncircumsized man is WAY better! Little food for is also better and more sensative for the uncircumsized man...there head is protected by the skin...not rubbing against cloothing all day long throughout their lives desensitizing them...Hope this helps!

Amy - posted on 01/19/2010




first of all - WATCH THE VIDEO of it being done. if you can say wholeheartedly, you'd love to put your son through that - since they can feel it - that's one battle.

but, i truly agree with krista. do your own research FULLY if you aren't sure. and if you're still up in hte air. do not do it. My son is not circed and we have no problems at all. his cousin is circed and has had infections/problems/seepage -ick stuff since he's had it done. think about it, you're having an open wound where poop is going to be. ick. ick. i also agreed that it was and is and will be our son's body, not ours. unless you are living in a desert area with lack of water, no real hygeinic reason to do it. people say they do it for religion, but there are numerous verses in new testament saying it is not even important, just to believe/follow the word of God. others do it because dad had it done. well, that's just silly. my husband is circed and wished his parents didn't have it done. can't get it back once it's gone. if you do leave him intact. be sure you know how to take care of him. do not let doctors or anyone else retract the foreskin.

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My son was almost 2 before he was circumcisized (long story as to why it wasn't done at birth) and if I had it all to do over again, I wouldn't have it done. Because of his age, he had to be put to sleep then he got a bad infection that required 2 creams and an oral antibiotic to clean up and because of the infection the circ. didn't heal right and it had to be redone. I know not everyone had as rough a go as we did and I'm not trying to scare you, I'm just telling you what my experience was. In the end you and your partner are the only ones who can make that decision for your son.

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