clingy and scared of everything. Is this normal?????

Linda - posted on 03/06/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My son is EXTRA clingy...and he's big so I can't carry him all them time. He's not sick and he only goes to me rather than dad. We spend the same amount of time with him....but I'm wondering if this is normal. He's also SCARED of EVERYTHING. Is this normal?

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Chrystal - posted on 03/06/2012

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My son is on the timid side I just accept that's his personality and try to work with it. If he has a fear than I comfort him but I also work with him to face his fear. Like he was afraid of the washer spin cycle so I sat with him on my lap a few feet from the washer while it was on and talked to him about what was happening and by the end of the spin he was feeling comfortable enough to get off my lap and has been fine since. I don't "baby" him but I do take into account that he's more unsure and am there to reassure him that he can handle things. If it's a specific thing like the doorbell that's upsetting your son than work to desensitize him, have dad play visitor and go through just like someone was visiting, be by his side to help him work through the anxiety if he needs to cling to you then let him just keep a calm voice about the whole thing ("it's ok name lets go see who it is" etc) and each time work on him being more independent. It can be a challenge but be patient with him and try to remember it may be a silly fear to us but for them it's very real. hope that helps some

Stifler's - posted on 03/06/2012

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No my daughter and son both got it at 8-9 months wanted to follow me, if they couldn't see me they were crying unless they were asleep etc. wanted to be carried around all day long

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Linda - posted on 03/07/2012

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Thanks Chrystal. I didn't think about desensitizing him. I like that. I'll try that and see how that goes.

Linda - posted on 03/06/2012

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Do you think separation anxiety causes him to have just...anxiety? I feel like my son has anxiety about everything. Do any of your babies have that or scared of things? When my son here's somebody knock on our door, he starts to cry and runs to me, clenching on to me so tight. Talked with his doctor and she said that its part of his personality. what? Any of you moms have an idea?

Bonnie - posted on 03/06/2012

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I say it is separation anxiety. They go through stages. It can start at around 8 months and go until after 2 years of age.

Linda - posted on 03/06/2012

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He's 15 months. There hasn't been any changes ever since I went back to work when he was 4 months old. i do my very best to keep everything in the same routine.

Chrystal - posted on 03/06/2012

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Not knowing your sons age I don't know if it's normal a lot of kids go through separation anxiety and fears at different ages. Picking "favorites" is totally normal most kids do it at some point it could last awhile or next week daddy could be the one he runs to.

Ruth - posted on 03/06/2012

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How old is he? They often go through a period of separation anxiety at about 8 or 9 months.



Another option, is has there been any major changes in your life lately? A move, a new sibling on the way, or anything like that? My daughter became very clingy and moody when my husband was away for basic training with the military, and it's flaring up again now that I'm pregnant.

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