[deleted account] ( 4 moms have responded )
I am the stepmother of a wonderful 6-year-old boy. Let's call him E. His father and I have been married for three years. My husband and E's mother were never married (or actually in a relationship). My husband has been a willing participant in E's life since conception - paying child support, seeing E daily, and even helping out with E's older brother when needed. We now have 50/50 custody. We moved within a mile of E's mother to keep the community the same. We get along decently, have regular "family" meetings, and are more or less on the same page.
Until E got sick the other day. He was with his mom when he started throwing up in the store before school. She sent us a text with an update, said they were in the store, but heading home, then demanded (and I really mean demand) that my husband leave home to go and buy her ginger ale, juice, popsicles, and medication. I couldn't believe it! Had she asked, we would have considered (although to be frank, even though we have 50/50 custody, we overpay child support each month, as she is only working part-time). However, she demanded. We advised she could drop him at our place while she ran to the store, but she ignored that.
The next day, when we picked E up, he started yelling at us that we don't care about him because we couldn't buy groceries for his mom. We were appalled. We never speak ill of her, and assumed that went both ways.
Is this normal co-parenting or are E's mother's expectations outrageous?