co parenting and a new marriage

Cher - posted on 01/28/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hello I am a mom of a beautiful 4 year old girl, I had her at 21 and her father and I have never been on the best terms when co parenting. We have not been together ever since I was pregnant(on my account). I am now 25 and engaged to a great man, and I guess I need advice on how to handle her father and his non accepting ways with my fiance. Keep in mind he had a girlfriend first and i accepted her as someone who would be in my daughters life, but they didn't last long at all. Once i became in a serious relationship I had them meet and it did not go well at all...I guess i need advice on how to co parent with him and make this new family i am creating work.

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Cher - posted on 01/29/2015

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Thank you soo much Jodi, I know im no the first lol, so I will just deal with it. Now the lateness is affecting me and it has affected my jobs in the past. They are supposed to be at the drop off spot at 7, and im waiting their till 7:50-8 o clock every time. It affects my daughter because she is always tired the next day and she starts kindergarten in may.

Jodi - posted on 01/29/2015

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Is an hour late causing problems for you, or is it just the fact he is an hour late?

It's really not okay that he talks negative about your fiance to your daughter, but there isn't a great deal you can do about that. You need to let your daughter know that both you and your fiance love her very much and you are sorry daddy is saying those things, as you can see it upsets her. She will eventually figure it out. My son has spent much of his life (the last 13 years) listening to his dad talk crap about my husband. But he is fine. He knows who he loves (and he DOES love his dad too) and while it is wrong that this happens, they need to learn just not to listen.

I'm not sure what you mean by acting out (as in the type of behaviour), but I do understand where you are coming from, my ex did the same when I decided to remarry. I DO understand your frustration, but you just have to soldier on. I assure you it DOES get better. Eventually he will meet someone he truly cares about and his focus will move away from targetting you. But you just need to give it time.

Cher - posted on 01/29/2015

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yes Jodi, he is is almost a hour late every time he drops off my daughter. when I do talk to him about it he will cusses me out. He also tells my daughter negative things about my fiance, when she loves him dearly also. He started acting out once he met my fiance, so i have a hard time believing that it doesn't have a little to do with my fiance.

Jodi - posted on 01/28/2015

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He doesn't have to accept your fiance, and he doesn't even have to have anything to do with him if he chooses not to. That needn't prevent your from co-parenting. Is there something specific he is doing that is preventing that from happening?

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