Jessica - posted on 01/15/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )
I am having a very difficult time trying to set co-parenting guidelines for structure with my ex-mother-n-law. She refuses to let me help. She wont even communicate with me on his progress, what types of things he is into. How she is teaching him simple things like numbers, colors, shapes, and letters. I would just like to be civil with her, but her resentment toward me is too strong. I have tried to explain that its for Avery's well being but she still wont budge. She even has him calling her mom. I am currently fighting a chips case with her. I was charged with abandonment and neglect because i was incarcerated, due to me taking the blame for my ex husband selling drugs. While i was in and he was out, using and driving with my son in the car...HIGH ON HEROIN! i repeatedly told cps about this and was disregarded. I also told the drug unit details on his use and selling of drugs, which finally produced some progress. He is now in prison for selling heroin and having the utensils accessible to the kids, 6th DWI, and bail jumping. I understand that my words are cheep and the decision to protect my husband at the time has changed my relationship with my son as well as put a label on me. When i was in my ex-husband continued to sell and use drugs, got involved with an 18yr old girl (he was 31) and then divorced me, then stole from his mother (money, credit cards, and jewelry) and he said that all of that was me. I have no way of proving myself innocent and at least be civil with her so we can continue to improve Avery's lifestyle and overall look on healthy relationships. I need tips on how to come to a happy medium.....some co-parenting skills or things i can do with or without her to improve the situation and alleviate the stress my son is experiencing. Where do i go for legal advice about the other things going on with cps which i believe are unjustified? I feel lost, desperate, and helpless.