Co-parenting with an uninvolved father


Jodi - posted on 12/08/2015




1. You don't get to decide whether you "allow" him to see your child or not. That is up to the courts decide. Can I just point out that a non custodial parent seeing his child once a week, especially one he is seemingly not permitted to take for overnight visits (?) IS actually an involved parent. But you don't get to cut him off. That's not your right.

2. A father's rights are not dependent upon your expectations of spending time and helping out. He is right, you ARE making demands. You don't get to control him.

3. Get custody and visitation orders and then both of you abide by them. Controlling him is not your prerogative. Orders will give you both the chance to co-parent without one trying to control the other. You can't co-parent if you are going to dictate the terms. Let the COURT dictate the terms, and use that as the basis for your coparenting negotiation (note the word NEGOTIATION).

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Dove - posted on 12/08/2015




Get a court order for custody, visitation, and child support. Seeing his kid once a week is actually quite involved.

Ev - posted on 12/08/2015




I have to agree with should read this post on this forum...
It has some advice in general for custody, visitation, and child support. It may have things in there you do not agree with but it is based on experience of myself and even several of the ones that answer here regularly including Jodi. I think you might find it interesting.

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