Co sleeping and getting our 10 month old to sleep on his own in our shared bed.

Angela - posted on 10/25/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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We love the benefits of co sleeping, however our son is 10 months and is having a lot of difficulty going to bed on his own. We are looking desperately for ways to have him fall asleep on his own in our bed and then be able to join him later. He takes a couple naps a day but at night he refuses to fall asleep even when we are both present, he is so tired but tries to keep himself away and this can last hours. If we leave him alone to fall asleep he will cry until he throws up. I am not willing to do that to him. Please any help on how to get a 10 month old to sleep on his own at night would be very very helpful or any book suggestions! Thank you!

Please reserve judgement on co sleeping I'm an RN and have read up on the benefits and its a personal choice how to raise your child.

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Holly - posted on 10/25/2012

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around 3-4 mo is when my babies started refusing their pacies as well... maybe the baby massage will help... i know that after a long warm bath with lots of baby lotioning afterwards always was soothing... but i always rocked my babies with a bottle before i put them down... but once they were bigger i put them in bed and left the room while they had a bottle and passed out. they might have cried a few nights... but they never got to the barfing state.... but thats why i am thinking that perhaps you leaving might be confusing when you co sleep.. i dunno...

Angela - posted on 10/25/2012

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Very true, we are trying the one nap starting today and we do try to wait until he falls asleep at night just like we do with naps and then leave the room. We tried feeding him, tried music, tried snuggling. At night for bed it's almost like he tries to wake himself up when he starts to drift off, which is frustrating after the 3-4th time we try. Oh I am not sure if this is odd or not but he started to refuse a pacifier at 3-4 months and will not take it (I thought this may be a comfort when falling asleep but not so much). Thank you for the advice...maybe some baby massage tonight will help!

Holly - posted on 10/25/2012

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#1 10 months old should start taking ONE nap a day. and he is ALSO big enough to cry it out... but ifyou don't want to do that then rock him to sleep... rub his eye brows, rub his cheeks, and sing him a lullaby and lay with him till he sleeps. at 10 mo old it is probably safe to co sleep... i wouldn't do it, but like you said it is a personal choice. in his mind though it is probably confusing as to why mommy wont come lay with me now, she always comes to bed in here... why am I in here when she isn't? do you give him a bottle when he lays down? do you have soft music playing? is it dark enough with out it being too dark? do you give him a pacifier?

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