Co sleeping vs bed sharing- and self soothing

Tabitha - posted on 03/25/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




I am conflicted on this, and wondering about other moms opinions. I am a new, FTM with a now almost 10 week old. Through experimentation and seeing what's worked for us over the last few weeks of our sons life we decided to lay him in his pack n play next to our bed until he's older. We have a routine down now where I bathe, feed, and read to my son. Instead of making him sleepy this makes him happy and oh so cute. I lay him down and he usually coos and smiles, then will grunt and fuss and eventually drift to sleep- self soothing. If he cries I Always go to him.

My husband doesn't think allowing our son to self soothe is good for him and brings him to bed with us (we safely bed share).

So question is, is fussing the same as crying in regards to babies trust? And for those who had a bed sharing baby- was it hard to transition him later?

I want what's best for my son, but with SOOO much conflicting advice I don't really know what that is!


Sarah - posted on 03/25/2014




We did not bed share any of our kids due to having a water bed and it not being safe. For me this worked VERY well. By 6 months all my kids were sleeping through the night. I have a 16 yr old, 12 yr old, and a 2 yr old. None of them have had sleep issues. Allowing them to fuss is fine as this does allow them to figure things out on their own and then picking them up when they cry is perfect as it let's them know when they need you you are there.

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