Cold Feet....

User - posted on 08/22/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Im almost 5 months pregnant with my second child and i must say... IM TERRIFIED!!! :( Of course i will love it and take care of it as i did my first, iv NEVER thought of giving it up or anything... But im just so scared... I have this feeling that im guessing is baby blues, but i almost feel like im just not ready to have another... Maybe its just nerves and i feel horrible and selfish for it... Has anyone else ever had this feeling with their second child?? My first child is 4 and will almost be 5 when this one is born. I know she will be a GREAT big sissy and will help me a lot, but i feel like im gonna go crazy with 2 kids!! haha... Im sure thats normal though... Im still pretty young, i just turned 21 this month. I had my daughter at 16 and even then i wasnt THIS worried. Maybe its because i didnt know what to expect then and was kinda clueless so it wasnt as scary... If that makes any since. Ugh... I need help! haha

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Liz - posted on 08/23/2012

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That is how I felt with our third. As he was literally coming out (sorry for the visual) I started crying and said, "I'm not ready for this!" Once he was in my arms, I forgot all about it. I remember being scared when pregnant with my second that I couldn't possibly love another child. I have heard people say that your heart just grows to love the second (and third, and fourth, etc) but I never understood it until I lived it.



Just rest assured that you are not alone. Most mothers of more than one that I know have felt the same way you are feeling now. Pregnancy is a very emotional time for us :) Taking care of a baby is just one of those things that comes right back to you. Good luck!

Elfrieda - posted on 08/22/2012

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Haha, my husband and I are terrified, too. Our son is 2 and is a nice boy, he helps around the house, he feeds himself, he communicates, he plays, he makes jokes, he kisses us, he's starting to get really interesting and we have a really nice life and routine... and now to go back to a screaming baby where you have no idea what to do to make it better PLUS have a toddler... yes, we're scared. :P I'm 30 weeks along, and the pregnancy seems to be rushing by about a hundred times faster than with my first.



But just keep in mind that a year and a half or two years from now they'll be playing together and have a sibling for life, and you'll have two wonderful children! That's my plan, to focus on the future. :) I know my life is way richer for having a little sister, I would do almost anything to provide the same for my son.

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User - posted on 08/23/2012

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Thank you Liz... It really does help to know that im not the only one out there with these types of feelings... And you hit the nail right on the head, its hard to believe that you can love another the way you do your first. I never wanted to come out and say that b/c i didnt want to sound bad... lol. I know i will love this baby. I feel it flutter around and get excited, but at the same time im like "OMG, im about to have another child!!!" lol. Im sure, just like you said, as soon as this one pops out the scared thoughts will go away.

User - posted on 08/23/2012

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Your very right. I should look more towards the future instead or worrying so much about the little stuff... Having a little baby again does worry me only b/c it seems like its been so long since iv had one. lol. My daughter is SO smart and i know she will help me a whole lot with the new baby. Thanks for that, you helped a whole lot! Its nice to hear another woman say they are scared too. lol

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