college age daughter

Shirley - posted on 05/02/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Does anyone have advice on talking to a college aged daughter who has become distant and difficult.....this is not her nature. She is 14 hours away and I'm concerned

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Leslie - posted on 05/02/2016

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How long has she been distant and difficult? Could it be just because it's getting towards finals and she's busy? If you don't think that is it can you maybe get in touch with her roommate? If she lives in the dorm you can definitely ask the RA to check on her or perhaps, better yet the RD for her dorm. It could just be "typical" college girl becoming independent but in this day and age you never know....and better safe than sorry.

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Lisa - posted on 05/03/2016

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Do you think it might be helpful to go spend the weekend with her? Sometimes we have to be present to know what is going on. What exactly is she being difficult about? Is she questioning your instruction or reluctant to do what you say? Or is she just busy and living her own college life? You know your daughter better than anyone. If I had concerns, I would probably go see her.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/03/2016

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If you don't use FB, you don't, although it wouldn't take a whole lot out of your day to acknowledge her accomplishments that she posts.

If she's attention fishing, she's not distant, I must point out.

Instead of "making an effort to acknowledge her adulthood"...how about accept that she is an adult, and stop treating her like a teenager. You can still be firm if she gets whiny...

Shirley - posted on 05/03/2016

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I have been making an effort to acknowledge her adulthood.....then she criticizes that I don't call....don't acknowledge her accomplishments on facebook......something we,don't use Facebook for....can't win

Michelle - posted on 05/03/2016

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What has she done to become distant and difficult? Is it because she isn't telling you every little thing happening every day?
She is living away from you, she is living her own life and is going to school. She's not going to ring you everyday.

Jodi - posted on 05/03/2016

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Or could it be that she is now an adult and is distancing herself from being your "little girl" and wants to assert her independence?

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