Kathleen - posted on 06/03/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
My daughter has been home for a month now and I am counting the days until she goes back to her dorm, her school, her"city" (she was born & raised in the suburbs & considers herself an expert on the "city", a place I was born, raised in and spent over 35 years of my life living in). She is snarly, snotty, uncommunicative, snaps every time I try to instigate any innocent conversation; does NOTHING, and I mean NOTHING around the house; and Daddy is her hero...why? because Daddy gives her money and I don't. I never thought it would come to this, because she was practically under my skin all of her life until high school....but now she wants nothing to do with me and frankly, I am feeling the same way. I am hurt, ANGRY AS HELL at her and just want her to GO AWAY. She is closer to my older sister, who is unmarried and has no children of her own because...you guessed it, Auntie showers her with expensive electronic gifts and all sorts of lovely clothing. I cannot afford this. She has absolutely no idea the anguish, stress, anxiety and worry I went through this past year cobbling together her tuition....none of which, incidentally, her father feels "he" should pay for. And Auntie? Well, tuition is MY responsibility, not hers. Her responsibility is to be the Favorite. Meanwhile I eat one meal a day, go without eyeglasses, haircuts and the basic necessities. Of course no one notices. To top all of this, I am the caregiver for my 93 year old dad who has dementia and my 87 year old mom who is in a nursing home with Alzheimer's. I've wished for death so often but I know I wouldn't be so lucky. Tell me it will get better. I don't feel like I can handle this much any longer. Someone has to die; obviously it's not going to be my parents, my husband, my daughter or Auntie Dear, so I volunteer.