Nancy - posted on 07/18/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )
Worked hard to provide opportunities to one of four children who showed athletic promise and the child received a D1 full scholarship. The commitment means limited time at home (left two days after high school graduation). With two children remaining in the 3 bedroom home- who have a 14 year age gap- I moved my six year old out of our room (finally) and into college student's room, leaving personal items untouched, only changing comforter to allow six year old to feel it is his space.Child came home for a party for a friend and refused to speak to me or the six year old. This was communicated for at least six months prior that this would be happening due to logistics and competitively packed travel schedule leaves room unoccupied.
No communication for over a month so I sent an email laying out my feelings, rationale, apologizing for my anger as child has only spoken to my husband, asking her to reflect on her behavior. The email was met with more disrespect from said child, chastising me for my behavior, stating she will talk to me when she is good and ready. She has made plans to go elsewhere for her short break in August with a family friend of mine and that adds another layer.
I am hurt and angry as she was provided above and beyond through sacrifice of time, family, and money so her dreams could be realized. Now, she is so insolent, I can no longer tolerate it. I found out about her going elsewhere through the grapevine she- nor the friend-bothered to communicate with me at all.
Am I wrong to be upset with this behavior? Even though she is staying elsewhere for one of the weeks, she wants to attend beach trip with two of her friends-on our middle class dollar. Feel it is unreasonable and I refuse to let it happen. Thoughts?