College - posted on 07/03/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )
Hi! We just dropped off our 17 year old 1,700 miles away at a great college. We have spyware on his phone that we own and discovered just 1 week in he's drinking at frat parties and being recruited to rush a frat. There is talk of beer pong, getting drunk, fake IDs etc etc. He is a very good kid and this has crushed our hearts with him making these kind of choices when we thought he had a higher set of morals than this. Drinking is illegal in his state for his age so he could be arrested, kicked out of school or worse like severely sick or alcohol poisoning.
The problem is we've used this spyware for 2 or 3 years now and have caught him in other activities in the past but not drinking or drugs. Has anyone ever gone through this before? This college is expensive and we will not tolerate this but don't want to give away our ability to know what's going on by disclosing how we know. We were thinking of tipping off the campus or local police anonymously about the illegal activities at a time he's not there so the word gets out that they are raiding bars and frats. Maybe that will scare him. Please help as we need to act but not sure how without blowing our cover.
Thanks to all!