K - posted on 03/11/2014 ( 10 moms have responded )
Hello there. I need some advice. Preferably from someone who has maybe already been through this type of situation. Im a 25 year old single mom. I have a son, he is 6 years old. I separated from his father over 3 years ago, and have remained "single" since. Recently and for the passed four month, I have been dating. I have been dating a woman. (Something ive done in the passed before being with my sons father of 5 years.) I of course, would never bring anything up to my son, unless it progressed more and became a serious relationship, but what I do know, is after fully "being with" a woman, its probably going to be a life long decision to stick with dating only women. Everything about it is 10x more fulfilling vs being with a man. So theres no confusion, ect. --My question is HOW do I explain this to a 6 year old? I have MANY gay friends, who my son interacts with, and sees with their partners. He never has questioned them, or even seemed to be curious why 2 people of the same sex were "holding hands or kissing". It seemed as if it was just natural for him. But im not sure he would feel the same about his mommy dating another woman. This is another rough thing for me... His father, is homophobic. Im not too fond of experiencing the mental abuse of when he finds out about this either. Once I tell my son, openly, im sure it will get back to him... and some not so nice things could POSSIBLY be said. Considering my son is only 6, should I just try my best to refrain from letting him find out? Its a really crappy situation for me because I am SO SO happy with my current relationship, yet it hurts to have to hide it/not know how to explain it.