Complete rejection following tough birth of premie. Now has CP

Barb - posted on 06/30/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Upon request, I stayed at my daughters home before, during and after life threatening delivery of 1 lb 8 oz baby boy. I cared for 4 year old and maintained schedule for her. Did lots of laundry, meals, and anything that was requested of me. Stayed on air mattress in basement with bath. There is no limit to what I would do to help. Upon preparing to depart, my daughter had a meltdown and threw myself and husband out of her home. He had driven to pick me up. She would not allow him to see his grandson.
There has been no communication on her part to me. My texts have no response. Now my grandson has been diagnosed with Cerebral Palsy and all communication to all family has been stopped. I know she is processing this, besides time and prayer, what can I be doing on her behalf?
What groups can I visit? I am very involved in a women's program now where I can share.

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Jodi - posted on 06/30/2015

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It sounds like she may be suffering PND, PTSD, or some related mental health disorder. I did much the same thing to my mother after I had my first miscarriage (at 3 months) and it took a long time to repair. She maintained contact with my husband without my knowledge during that time, and my husband, who was incredibly supportive of me, kept that to himself until he knew I was ready to face my mother again. In the meantime, my mum was a great support for him, so he could be the rock I needed at the time. For me, I was totally humiliated by how I treated her, and it took me a long time to actually face up to be able to tell her I was sorry - it was only after I'd had therapy and was able to cope with my own demons that I could also face this one.

Can you maintain contact with her husband/partner? Can you focus on providing him with support, which in turn, will help him support her?

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Barb - posted on 06/30/2015

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Hard to admit, he is part of the problem. My daughter is the stronger of the two.
Since the entire process was/is so out of her character, It most likely is a mental "perfect storm" response. I will pursue that direction in my understanding. I live 1000 miles away and rely on my family or her friends for updates. This seems to be across all boards, so you may be right. I know for me, it takes constant contact with God, as I trust. I appreciate your reply.

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