complicated relationship

Jamies - posted on 02/06/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Is going to be a long story,well i'm actually a single mom,but my girl is staying with my ex,10 years ago i had decided to leave my girl with my ex because my ex family can take gd care of her,where else i've to work,And will have little time with her.
After that she had settled down with them,everything for her was well taken care.
I met a man that i felt he might be the right one for me,so i try to open up & accepted him.
Well the ist 2 yrs was fine,my girl is 2yrs old now,is been many yrs she still can't accept him,As i was crash in between,i always have to act like nothing had happened.
I'm not married to him,after 2 yrs with him,then i found out he's married with a daughter but they are not in contact anymore & not divorced As well.
At first i really can't take it but after all so many yrs he's not contacting them & been staying with me for almost 10years. All these yrs actually right inside my heart i'm nt happy at all,he's not working,doing lots of voluntary work,he never askme for money but ist few years i did help him but i can't just go on like that,i stop.
Many things had happened between us but whenever i bring up to quit off our relationship,i'm so soft hearted,just can't let go.
He Don't support me & sometime is nice to me,sometime never even talk to me,i Don't know what should i do.
My girl tells me if the man can't give yiu happiness why you still want to cling on,you should have a better lives & do whatever you want to do.What my girl says to me is true,she says she can see he Don't really love or care about me & why i'm so stupied,i had failed my ist relationship & i thought i had met the right man.
To be frank no doubt i'm with him for 10 years but 7 years we have no sex at all.
He's a very religious man,he tells me cannot have sex,i accepted n respected him.
I had given in so much but in return i Don't know why we are still together.
I'm so sad & confused,i Don't know what should i do,any advise for me please,thank you.

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Jamies - posted on 02/06/2015

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Thank you for your b'dy wishes,i hope i can go through this by myself,is going to b tough for me cos i'm a very soft hearted woman,outside looks tough but right inside soft like bean curd:)

Raye - posted on 02/06/2015

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Happy Birthday. Give yourself a great gift of self-love and get rid of the good-for-nothing man that's dragging you down. He's not giving you what you need, he doesn't treat you the way you deserve to be treated, so quit hanging on to that loser. You deserve better!

Jamies - posted on 02/06/2015

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Well i know exactly what's going on but i Don't know how to end the relationship,whenever when i bring up this subject about us,he will just keep quiet & treat it like nothing had happened or will says u really giving up,says i'm heartless,no feel & thoughts at all.
In the end i'm the one is quiet dare not even bring it up anymore.None of my friends know about my problem,everybody thought that i'm happy with my lives but actually i'm nt at all,morever i'm nt young like anyone out there,i had wasted these 10years,today is my b'dy,he nvr even gv me wishes,if i will to says,he will says sonething like is only b'dy n b'dy is your suffering dy,things like that he will tells me,sometime i sit down n think,i'm really a stupied woman.Anyway thanks for your advise.

Dove - posted on 02/06/2015

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You already know what to do. There IS no relationship there. Listen to your daughter... she's a smart sounding girl.

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