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Yesenia - posted on 08/25/2016 ( 15 moms have responded )

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My son father and his mother had threatened to kidnap my son in 2011 and he went to prison and now his out trying to get visitations and rights to him. He lied at the AG office said he paid child support and he had my son when I was all this time when that wasn't possible for the reason that he was in jail. My son has a speech impediment and everytime he spends time with his father he shuts down for days confused and misbehaves not wanting no one close to him. Recently he wakes up scared screaming and yelling that his scared that his going to be taken and never see me again. He has family ties in Mexico and I'm afraid if he takes him one weekend I will never see him again. His doing this knowing I came to visit hoping the judge will keep me here in Texas when I moved last year to Alaska. I'm so worried I don't sleep at all. What do I do?

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Dove - posted on 08/26/2016

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You should have gotten court orders in 2011... All you can do now is get a good lawyer, present whatever solid evidence you have, and take it to court.

And yes, you have to have a passport to go in and out of Mexico... or a passcard (cheaper item w/ a shorter expiration date... only good if you drive in instead of fly). Our church youth group takes kids into Mexico usually once a year...

Nicola - posted on 08/26/2016

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Any messages by phone..mobile from the father on this subject i was advised to keep..good evidence in court!

Ev - posted on 08/26/2016

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Yesenia--again unless a passport for the child is signed off by both parents, he can not legally take the child out of this country. AND you have to have a passport to go into Mexico or Canada. I know this for fact because my friend waited until her kids were over 16 to get their passports and then did not need both parents to sign for it.

Yesenia - posted on 08/26/2016

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I have seen one and she preparing everything the thing I don't get is can the judge make me stay in Texas until he and my son have a good relationship or will I still be able to go back home in Alaska.

Nicola - posted on 08/26/2016

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My now ex husband is from North Cyprus (turkish occupied illegal state) yet we lived south of island which is part of EUROPE. HE threatened numerous times he would take my daughter 3 at the time over the border and would never see her again. I moved home to uk and he followed..now here he has still made those threats.My lawyer and I took him to court over this situation plus child visitation. The judge decided to have children seen at visitation centre incase of abduction and also his passport was withdrawn.Very difficult situation but see a lawyer!x

Yesenia - posted on 08/26/2016

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Not to Mexico you don't need it. Only when coming back you do need it not to cross over there.

Michelle - posted on 08/26/2016

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He needs a passport to leave the country. Don't sign the passport application or get your lawyer to get in injunction at the border crossings. If it's in the system then they won't let your son across the border.

Yesenia - posted on 08/26/2016

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I understand that he has right because his the father. What worries me is that he took out a copy of our sons birth certificate and stated that he has plans to go to Mexico and that's where I worry because he has family over there and he threatened me to take him and I'd never see him again. That is my concern nothing else. My son is my only concern in all this.

Jodi - posted on 08/26/2016

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It doesn't matter. He is still the father and you have no orders. Until you have orders, he has as much right as you do.

Yesenia - posted on 08/26/2016

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No orders in 2011 because he went to jail for dealing drugs and yes I understand his the father of my child but he doesn't call asking about his child. He calls harassing me bout my life or bout me never being home in the day cuz I'm busy working or with my other children.

Jodi - posted on 08/25/2016

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He has a right to apply for visitation rights. And to be fair, he has a right to have a relationship with his child. Child support has nothing to do with it (and if he lied about that, let him prove it - the onus will be on him to provide evidence).

If you have evidence to support your concerns, you need to present this. You could potentially push for supervised visits. If you are concerned about your child's welfare, have your child see a mental health professional. You can also have a guardian ad litem appointed who will consider the best interests of the child.

Basically, your best option right now is to talk to a good family lawyer.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/25/2016

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Well, he is the child's father...did you have orders in 2011?

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