concerns about my 15 month olds development

Brittny - posted on 06/23/2016 ( 8 moms have responded )

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my son is 15 months and two weeks. He loves to babble, knows the difference between mom and dad, but will not say it. He brings us books, blocks, puzzles to play with during the day. My main concerns are that he will only sleep in his room with his blanket, he will only make eye contact and answer to my husband and I. He rarely points to things that interest him. He does sign, milk, more, please and occasionally will say it. He is also very motor driven and goes from one toy to the next very quickly. He will look back at us when given a toy, follows commands such as : Get me blanket. Still his vocabulary is very limited.He also does not respond to strangers well. He will not give them eye contact or second thought. If he wants something, he will usually just cry. At times he zones out and does not respond to my husband and I calling his name. He will also wander (looking back to see if we watch him) very quickly. He never sits still, and lately has an obsession with doors and closing them. He is very motor driven and will walk and climb anywhere, not listening to no no. We do have a history of autism in our family so I am extremely concerned (losing sleep) when we took him to his per for his eval she said to wait and see if he grows by 18 months. I majored in early childhood and still my gut says something is off. The fact that he has no fear and is so independent scares me that he is autistic. I have contacted baby net ( we live in SC) for some help on speech or therapies for autism. Any of you moms experience something similar? He seems to only care about my husband and I. I feel so lost, alone and helpless as my friends and family look at me like I am crazy when I mention it. I am scared and anxious. I keep reassuring myself that God has given me this child to love no matter what....but my mom gut is throwing huge red flags.

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Dove - posted on 06/24/2016

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The doctor said to wait until 18 months and see what's up... so wait. I know how it is to worry... because I have chronic anxiety... but you have to TRY and just relax and just enjoy your child. If there is something to diagnose... let the doctors deal w/ that part. You are mom... just be mom. ♥

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/24/2016

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Unfortunately your experience plays against you. You know what to look for, so you are looking for it in everything he is doing. Relax momma. Enjoy your time with your baby. If he is diagnosed, you will be able to rely on your experience, but for now, you are just a first time momma.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/24/2016

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Do NOT diagnose your own child. Doctors don't, and neither should you. Wait for the time the doctors say it is appropriate to test, and do it then. In the meantime, it sounds to me like your child is pretty normal. Neither of my kids spoke much at that age, and I was the center of their attention. He might have autism, especially with the familial line of it. But what difference does it make right now? Wait and see.

Ev - posted on 06/24/2016

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It is not that it is offensive but that you are putting so much invested time in trying to find something wrong. I have seen other posts exactly like yours. My question is now what ages do you work with?

Brittny - posted on 06/23/2016

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thanks. The joint communication worries me. He is at times not in tune to his environment and is very regimented. I am going through this without a mom and very limited support. Today, we went to my grandparents. he would not respond to his name ( at all) to other members of the family. I am sorry if my post offended you.

Brittny - posted on 06/23/2016

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Thanks. I am, by nature a worrier. I am trying to overcome that :)
I teach school and also have worked in ABA. I am sorry if my post came off as over analyzing and looking for it. He is my first and I do not have a mom to help me through this journey. I lost her at 21, and well you know husbands can be at time not sympathetic. I love little man with all in me. Just wants whats best for him.

Sarah - posted on 06/23/2016

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I would agree with Evelyn. Enjoy your child. He is a normal 15 month old. Don't look for issues when there are none. My 13 month old has no fear and is very independent....so she must be autistic then. She walks and climbs everything and never listens to no. She cries for what she wants. At times she zones out. She has never sat still since birth...always on the go. All my kids would only sleep in their room with their blanket. So according to you my child is autistic. I have worked with 0 to 5 yr olds for 18 years now and I will tell you my experience and my mom gut says that all those things are normal developmental things. Enjoy your child. They are only little for so long. Going through life worrying about the things that aren't there or the what if"s you loose out on life and your child.

Ev - posted on 06/23/2016

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{{my son is 15 months and two weeks. He loves to babble, knows the difference between mom and dad, but will not say it. He brings us books, blocks, puzzles to play with during the day. My main concerns are that he will only sleep in his room with his blanket, he will only make eye contact and answer to my husband and I. He rarely points to things that interest him. He does sign, milk, more, please and occasionally will say it. He is also very motor driven and goes from one toy to the next very quickly. He will look back at us when given a toy, follows commands such as : Get me blanket. Still his vocabulary is very limited.}}
*****From what you have listed here as what he is doing is normal for his age and at 15 months you can not expect him to talk like a 5 year old. He will understand more than he can say at this point and time. I worked with preschool age kids but mostly two year olds and they were also special needs. It is normal for him to have a comfy thing like a blanket at this age to sleep with because it is a security thing to hm. It is also normal for some kids not to point at things that interest him, make a lot of eye contact and answer only to you and dad. At 15 months you can expect him to be active like that going from toy to toy or activity to activity. He is only 15 months.*****
{{He also does not respond to strangers well. He will not give them eye contact or second thought}
*****This is also normal for him to do. He may be shy around others.*****
{. If he wants something, he will usually just cry. At times he zones out and does not respond to my husband and I calling his name.}
*****It is normal for him to cry for something—that is when you say “You want the toy, drink, book, or….” So he can learn the names of the items and how to ask for them. As for zoning out, get ready for more of that as he gets older. It is normal for them to do this when occupied with playing and it is not a sign of autism most times.*****
{{ He will also wander (looking back to see if we watch him) very quickly. He never sits still, and lately has an obsession with doors and closing them. He is very motor driven and will walk and climb anywhere, not listening to no no.}}
*****All little kids look back after wandering away from parents to see if they are being watched. And at his age he won’t sit still for long…it is normal because that is what kids this age do. In fact, they do not begin to sit still for long until around 5 or 6 years of age….all completely normal.*****
{{{We do have a history of autism in our family so I am extremely concerned (losing sleep) when we took him to his per for his eval she said to wait and see if he grows by 18 months.}}
*****A lot of families have Autism history but just because a few family members have it does not mean your child does. So far in this post it sounds like to me that you are looking for him to be this way. Most kids are not ided with Autism until between 2 and 5 years of age. Your child sounds normal to me. I really think you are overreacting to all this. You need to stop looking for Autism signs in every little thing he is doing. None of what you describe is of a child with Autism disorder unless it is something like a high functioning Autism and then sometimes you never find out until they are older. EXAMPLES: My son was diagnosed at 11 and his sis’s best friend was diagnosed at 17. High functioning autism.*****
{{ I majored in early childhood and still my gut says something is off.}}*****You majored in early childhood? Did you finish the course work? Are you a education student or should I say teacher? Have you actually worked with kids with Autism on a long term basis? Just because you majored in early childhood does not mean you know that your child is autistic. Early Childhood classes teach you about the early years of child development and if you went into the education portion of that as well, how to educate young children. I did that and I have 10 plus years working with special needs kids and typical kids.*****
{{ The fact that he has no fear and is so independent scares me that he is autistic.}}*****Most kids this age have no fear of anything. They just go and do. And being independent is what you want for your child. I think you are mixing up what you are saying here. It is normal for him to be this way.*****
{{I have contacted baby net ( we live in SC) for some help on speech or therapies for autism.))*****And what are they going to do?*****
{ Any of you moms experience something similar? He seems to only care about my husband and I. I feel so lost, alone and helpless as my friends and family look at me like I am crazy when I mention it.}}*****They look at you like that because you are overreacting to things. I told you through the whole post as I broke it down that 99 percent of what he does is normal for kids this age.*****
{{ I am scared and anxious. I keep reassuring myself that God has given me this child to love no matter what....but my mom gut is throwing huge red flags.}}*****I am sure you are worried and you did get a blessing in that child but as I said he is fine from all accounts in your post. Some kids do not do all the milestones others do but that does not mean they have any special needs at all. They just do not do those things. Sometimes they do things that are on the Autism spectrum list but that also does not make them Autistic. I really think you should slow down and enjoy this kid instead of looking to label him when it seems to me nothing is going on or is wrong.

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