Confidence

Ashley - posted on 03/09/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Having trouble feeling beautiful again after having three kids. My stretch marks make me cry. I tgibk it might be the post partum depression trying to overtake my life again. I feel ugly and i cry trying to find clothes that make me feel beautiful. I can't wear a belt because i have "muffin tops". I want to work out but I don't because i worry that when i tighten and tone my vody my stretch marks will be more visable. About two yeara ago i caught my husband watxhing porn. I had our second child and was having really bad post partum issues and my husband and i were not sexually active with one another. I was really upset that i found history searches for pornography then since then i have had so much teouble believing that i am a beautiful woman. I feel ugly compared to the women he must have been staring at on the phone with their tight bodies and no stretch marks. My self confidence has been struggling for the last 2 years and even tgough he tells me im beautiful and that he is sorry i still don't feel beautiful.

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Carmelia - posted on 03/09/2016

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Omg... You are a mother and you have stretch marks because you carried and gave birth to a life! There is nothing more beautiful then that! It took me until I was 33 to have my first child, and I remember thinking I would never have children and looking at women with their children and hearing men talk about their wives and children and thinking I would never be woman enough to fit that role. My husband would bend over backwards to help a woman in need with a child and he is so good with kids. I thought for sure he would leave me for a woman who could do what a woman's body was made for. By the grace of God, today we have 2 beautiful little girls and honey, I have never felt like more of a woman in my life. All those tight bodied little porn girls are just that, you are a woman, a mother and a wife. When it comes to watching porn, yea most men do honestly. It's just a man thing and it's not intended to be any comparison to you as a woman. Wear those stretch marks proudly baby cuz you earned them!

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Ashley - posted on 03/10/2016

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Thank you for your post. I just still can't help but feel "no beautiful". I am happy and thankful for each of my children. To me i find it close to cheating and a slap in the face for a man to be watching porn when he has a woman. He might as well call that porn star up and have a fuck session if he wants to stare at other vagaina and not mine becaude i would gladly lay out on a bed so he can handle his business. But because he sought out other methods of intimate pleasure it struck a very sensitive chord with me and my self esteem. As it was hard to love myself after having children becaude i wasn't prepared for the aftermath. I guess this is a battle i alone can only manage to get over i guess.

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