Amanda - posted on 02/20/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )
I have been in a wonderful loving relationship for about the last two years. Prior to this I was married to an alcoholic and have come to know the world of an unhealthy relationship. So I am now 25 and am divorced and have a wonderful, amazing son from that marriage. He will be 5 in May. My ex-husband and I get along great now. We, of course, have our ups and downs but now since I do not have to live with an alcoholic makes my life and my sons life a lot better, as you can imagine. Moving forward to current day, I am engaged to a fantastic man who my son adores. My sons biological father does not always stick to his word about spending time with our son and my fiancé has been there to gladly pick up the pieces. He is exactly what my son and I need and love. My fiancé has three kids from two prior relationships. Needless to say, he hasn't always made the best decisions but hey neither have I. His ex-wife and mother of his two youngest is not easy to get along with and creates reasons for my fiancé not to have his kids on his times (yes we have been to court the bills could show that thousands of dollars over with no avail). Their son they have together has autism and about a year ago there was a sexual incident that occurred during nap time in our home between his son (age 4 at the time and my son age 4 at the time). My son does not have special needs and has never displayed inappropriate behaviors in school, in daycare, at home, etc.... But his son has gotten removed from two daycares and a school because he was doing these inappropriate acts on other children. Since then my fiancé's ex wife has called my son a pediphole and blames him. She has also shouted this in front of my fiancé's children as well as other inappropriate things that have said occurred. I am unsure of what happened and the amount of guilt as a mother kills me. My son has gone through everything needed at CPS to ensure no adults were harming him, etc... And they chalked it up to children being curious. What I want to know from other moms is this.... Would you leave? I love this man to death and he loves my son as if he were his biological father but I cannot get over the fact that this happened. I am sickened every time his children are here and always arrange for other things for my son to do when they are here to ensure he doesn't have to see them. It is apparent from his ex wife that she will openly suggest to her children that my son is a monster so is it safe for him to even ever be around? No one understands me and I am struggling. If I stay I fear Marshal will not be happy but if I leave I know 100% he would be devastated because he worships the grounds my fiancé walks on and loves him so much. Please help.