Confused and overwhelmed as a mother of adult children

Virginia - posted on 03/07/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have a 24 year old daughter who is driving me crazy with a 27 year old son as well. My son is in jail my daughter is homeless with a 5 month old baby. I am going to write about my daughter. She has always been a struggle her father killed himself when she was 5 years old. I could not tell her how so I just told her that he had an accident. As she became a teen 13 her cousin over an argument told her how after that it had been hell. She is a young women had a child at the age of 18 years old he is now 5 years old. He lives with me in my home always has since birth she took him for an overnight stay here and there but not much because it was always at friends houses she lived with me as well. I help and took on the role of a mother again because she was always out getting high or drinking she would leave for days at a time. She singed a paper allowing me to take him to the doctor as well as his education. He was about 2 years old when she singed because I could not do anything without her. I lived in a prison with her in my home she has stolen for me money, gold, credit cards, checks, electronics, went so far as taken money out of her sons pig bank. I put a lock on my room door and always made sure that my door was locked. She started a relationship with a 21 year old who was messing around with his x and her as well. He is abusive, physically, mentally, and emotionally. She got pregnant and has now has 5 month old baby boy, They got an apartment together after 4 months my daughter called crying to come get her she was leaving him, Her family rent a truck and moves her again all her stuff is in my garage till now. We have seen her with black eyes, broken ribs, burses all over her body but she choices to stay. Now they are homeless and living place to place with a 5 month old baby. I had the baby for about 2 months called DCFS and they do not do their job. She refuses to come home because I have rules I will not race another child unless she gives me guardianship of both her children. I will not put up with her abuse any move. I have had it 8 years of hell with her and her problems; I have started the court process to gain guardianship of both my grand babies am I wrong for doing this to my daughter? I have tried to help her in many ways but the only times she calls her step dad is when she needs money or needs help with her car or just needs help. Her 5 year old is an honor student in a gifted school for over excelled children he is very smart. The father gave my guardianship but my daughter will not. Please give me some feedback.

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Kelly - posted on 09/09/2015

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I'm so sorry, I missed some of your story.
What state do you live in?
You can always open the phonebook and look for Attorneys that will offer,
Free Consultations!!!!!!
I think CPS Would be your best bet.
If by chance you get a terrible worker, call back ( They are all different -Ask for the Manager or person in charge )
If you can Go to the office and see a worker.
He is abusive, you have seen your Daughter's black eyes. Get your Sweet Grand baby out of wherever they might be staying. Don't give up.

Kelly - posted on 09/09/2015

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You need to take guardianship of your Grandbabies !!!!
My daughter has 2 beautiful Daughters 6 & 4. My daughter just turned 27 and she lives in the drug world.
CPS bece involved because she was overdosing to much. My daughter lived with me for 4 years after leaving her Husband. He is also a addict.
He went to rehab by the state, my Daughter chose not to !!!!!
My Granddaughters lived with me at first
Now they live with my Daughter's husbands parents.
This topic for you my friend~~
Go to the courts or call CPS
Child Protective Services, they will definately help you !!!!!
Good Luck. :)
Remember our small children do NOT have voices to say No or I don't want to live with you. We have to be their voices especially if our G~children live in a place that is unhealthy, wrong, their little hearts are worried, scared etc....,
Yes, your doing the right thing !!!!!!
Best of luck ~ I am here if you need to talk

Ev - posted on 03/07/2015

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I would go ahead and continue with the guardianship of the kids in court. At some point it is going to go before the judge and she is going to have to show to fight it and if she does not i am not sure what will happen but all you can do is try. I would also keep on calling DCFS on them. it might take more than one time to get them to actually check things out where the baby is concerned.

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